Married/Seriously Dating Friends

sweets18

FI and I don't have any together! We went to a marriage conference this weekend that was so wonderful! But it also reminded us that we don't have any couples to really fellowship with on that level. We don't have friends with whom we will raise our kids around, go on family vacations with, etc. It is really starting to bother me cause this is something that is important to me. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Or maybe even opposite?

shirenagennine

We did have a similar problem.  However, we have a wonderful church home here in PA and we found a lot of couples who were seriously dating, engaged, and married that we have been able to come into fellowship with.  The more that we surrounded ourselves with these people, the more we realized how much we needed them.  I understand how you are feeling.  But that just means that it is time for you guys to take action.  Go out and make the couple-friends that you are looking for!

desi2002

we were the first of our friends to get married... but then the rest of them followed soon after

wallacje

This is something I haven't even thought about.  Been too busy worrying about our life together to think about if we have married friends to be around (all my married friends live in different states and his are like 10 years older, not that much in common except that we will be married), but I think its something that every couple needs.  Thanks for bringing this up, something I can talk to FI about.

lil01

None of my close friends are married, but I have 2 that are in serious relationships. Majority of my FI's close friends are married. It really helps to have friends that are married or in serious relationships because they're fun to hang around when doing couple-related activities and they can relate. 

However, my single girlfriends and guy friends do keep me entertained with their dating stories!! 

hatroopes

I have been thinking about this a lot since we got engaged. All of my girlfriends who are married/engaged live in different states and all of FI's close friends are married (he's the last of the boys to get hitched), but they all live in the northeast. He has a college friend here who we have hung out with a couple of times - he has been dating the girl for a few months now, but I'm not sure how serious it is. Now that he's moving here, we really have to be on the lookout for seriously dating/engaged/married couples - I know it's very important for couples to hang out and be around each other as they can relate to a lot of the same issues. Thanks for bringing this up!

M1ssJ

This is a issue for me too! I am the only one egaged out of my circle , there are 2 live in situations. but no married couples , FI has no married friends either. I think its so important to have a circle you can share those "bumps" and triumphs you experience in the first few years. I'm looking to my church to help us with that