what to do?

latashaphillips81

we're getting married this july. i still havent recieved alot of rsvp's so i have starting calling/txting/emails/etc trying to contact everyone. there is one person that i've spoken to over messenger and asked how many people would be coming with her. she said she didnt know because the invitation was sent to her and her hubby and didnt include her mom & sister.

i went over the guest list and because i was under by a few i said she could bring them but she needed to get back to me ASAP so i will know. well its been over a week and i've tried emailing/txting her again and still no response.

The day we are getting married is also their anniversary, she says that her and hubby would come. I guess my question is what should i do? i cant seem to get ahold of her to get a final count and that could possibly be 4 seats that would be open. should i keep trying or just cut her out?

MIABRIDENTAMPA

Tough call! I say put it in for her and her hubby, since she didnt get back with you on regarding her mom and sis.

latashaphillips81

yea, thats what i was thinking too

MIABRIDENTAMPA

To be honest, my planner told me something, she said you cant chase people to come to your wedding, they should have common courtesy to RSVP, and if they dont have a placecard, then they can join the party after dinner.

latashaphillips81

see, those were my thoughts exactly! i felt i was wrong for thinking that way. i told my FI that those who didnt send their rsvp's back i just wouldnt put their names on the list ( i am having a guest list made from the rsvp's i got back at the entrance of the reception and if i didnt get your rsvp you cant get in)

summerbride11

I agree w/ MIA's planner.  There are going to be ppl who RSVP "yes" who don't show up- i know it's rude but it happens. We had 10 guests whom we accounted for who were "no shows" (for different reasons).  I would say out of those 10, 7 of them were guests that never RSVP'd and we had to chase them down for a response. The same ppl who said  " ...we are definitely comming, put us down as a YES".   In retrospect, I think it's easier and more finacially sound to stick to the rule: if they don't RSVP, they won't be on your list.  GL.

ufsweetiebear

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_what-to-do-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:39d385ea-2eac-4c17-a05f-a271cc8008e5Post:0a00dc30-2cb2-42c8-b51c-73b03421e915">Re: what to do?</a>:
[QUOTE]To be honest, my planner told me something, she said you cant chase people to come to your wedding, they should have common courtesy to RSVP, and if they dont have a placecard, then they can join the party after dinner.
Posted by MIABRIDENTAMPA[/QUOTE]

This might be a dumb question, but if you have an open bar, could you really let people in after dinner? Our bar is open for 4 hours so it will extend well past the meal but I wouldn't want the venue to figure out that more people are drinking than what we paid for in the per head price.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_what-to-do-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:39d385ea-2eac-4c17-a05f-a271cc8008e5Post:93f5a166-62f3-4b79-a244-3acd25eeedc8">Re: what to do?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what to do? : This might be a dumb question, but if you have an open bar, could you really let people in after dinner? Our bar is open for 4 hours so it will extend well past the meal but I wouldn't want the venue to figure out that more people are drinking than what we paid for in the per head price.
Posted by ufsweetiebear[/QUOTE]

I am not really sure, in regards to your bar situation. For us it works out because we provide our own alcohol for our event. I think you should definitely discuss with your venue how that would work out for you.