Is 3 months out too early to send invites?

xobride

Now that we're officially booked, we're sending out the STDs only to certain people and others will just get an invitation.  The reasons are a little complicated so I won't bore you guys with the dramatic details.  Anyway, for those who are just getting invites, is 3 months too early to send them out or should I stick to the 2 month rule?  It's a local wedding, but it's in the summer and I know people will be making travel plans and such and we're having a small, 50 person, wedding and only close friends and family are being invited and I really want them all to be able to come.  Many already know the date, but some won't have any idea until the invite arrives and there's nothing I can do to change that (again, drama).

bridetobe71412

I don't see why you can't send yours out at 3 months. You have a good reason (potential summer plans). Usually I would say that sending STDs and invitations within a month or two of each other would be overkill - you could save the money and just send the invitations early - but if you're already set on the STDs, not a huge deal.

We're sending ours out about 3 months beforehand, but we sent our Save the Dates back in October. 99% are OOT and need to make travel arrangements, so that's the rationale behind ours.

Elinetrouwt

I'm sending them out 3 months early too. We didn't do STD's, and as you say, it's summer time.

xobride

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[QUOTE]Three months seems a bit early to me. I'd worry that people would forget to RSVP, since they'd have two months to do so, and then you'd have to call a lot of people. Since you can't tell people about the date without a paper item, could you compromise and send your save-the-dates to everyone? That would give them a heads-up on the date now. Plus, you don't have that many people, so it shouldn't be too expensive.
Posted by Schatzi13[/QUOTE]

We ordered enough of each to send both to everyone and had planned to do that initially, but there is some family drama on both sides that is preventing us from telling people that we have an actual date set and venue booked.  I may just split the difference and go for 10 weeks rather than 8 or 12.

michelle11988

10 weeks should be enought for everything.  I would maybe skip the postage on the STD's unless you already have it but then again you are late July so you could do both still.  Best of luck with all the family drama!

littlemoments324

10 weeks is good!  Sorry to hear about the family drama..not cool..

xobride

Thanks guys.  You get to a point where you just have to move on and live your life and give it to God and let it go.  On the positive side, we sent out our 19 STDs today

cmhutchison22

We will be send ours out in April. As soon as I can talk FI into letting me click the submit button for our invitation order. haha!  He is having an anxiety moment about that one.  I don't know why though.

xobride

I was doing 10 weeks from the wedding date.  Should it be from the RSVP date?  Our RSVP date is July 1st and our wedding date is July 27th.

butterflyjumper1

We are planning to send ours a pinch earlier than the 2 month rule - probably closer to 11 weeks.  we have quite a few international guests and figured better safe than sorry in  making sure everyone's invites arrive on time.  i think as long as you don't go earlier than 3 months, you are totally within the appropriate time frame. everyone has different situations and different guest needs to accommodate.