Is it bad????

gatineaubride

If you have a wedding with only one BM.
My friend told me about a wedding where  one of the BM made the bride's life miserable before and even on her wedding day. Since  I have heard that story, I have been traumatised and I have decided that I don't want any BM except my sister. We don't always agree but that I can deal with her. It 's my wedding and I have no intention of trying hard to please people including a bunch of BM who could be whinners and difficult to handle. I am already stressed and overwhelmed with that whole wedding planning so I am trying to make my life easier. FI desperately wants some of his men to be in the party. Am I being selfish? Should we have a bridal party? What if the girls make my life complicated? You know how hard  it is to please women, LOL!  I am not a diplomatic person so I know that I can be harsh on them if they are too difficult and I don't want to take the chance of loosing those friendship. What would you do????

TINAMM

I would only have one to avoid any issues. My dh brother just backed out last week and his best friend may step in but unlikely so we may be down to one moh and one best man.

KSTURGIS

No, its not bad. Its a personal choice. There are plenty of brides who dont have any at all.

cincy2011

Its totally fine - my cousin only had her sister as her one BM and it did not seem weird at all.  If you foresee drama with the group of girls you're considering for BMs then don't invite that into your life! 

essian

No, it's not bad. Remember, it's  your day and nobody else's so you need to do what would make you happy. There is nothing wrong with having 1 MOH and 1 best man.Like someone mentioned in an earlier posts, some people don't have any at all.

There really is no such thing as you must have a bridal party.

OFF

No it's not bad.  It's totally a personal choice.  Do whatever makes you comfortable.   I don't have any BMs.  I just didn't want the inevitable drama and headaches.  

Mypasmita

There is nothing wrong with having just one BM.

You will see that most headaches posts on theknot are about bridesmaids. LOL

MrClintonsFirstLady09

I do not think it is a bad idea at all. I haven't had any major BM hassles but one of my BM well she is actually my MOH (matron) and she will be the only one not wearing makeup on my day (threw a fit about it) and she is holding up the other MOH (maid) from purchasing shoes because each shoe picked out for the dress they are wearing, she doesn't like. She keeps forgetting this is not about her. If it wasn't so late in the game and she had not spent money on her dress I would ask her to step down and she just be in the audience. It is very frustrating. So if you want to avoid all the drama, one BM is not a bad idea luv.

prncsz

I say stick with one if that's what you want. We are planning to have 9 and I'm already having drama with two of them. Both are my best friends and I didn't want to choose so I made them both my MOH. I went to the bridal shop last week with one the other got mad (but she went out of town), then I try to schedule time to go to bridal shops with both and the one who went with me last week pulled out because the other "doesn't talk to her". I don't need the drama so I said don't worry about it to both of them and will wait unti my mom comes into town and pick all of the BM/MOH dresses myself. Go with one!

DanielleB80

It's not bad at all! It's only going to be me and FH because I didnt want to deal with any headaches or drama.

gatineaubride

THanks ladies for sharing your experience. I feel more and more comfortable im my decision as having BM seems to give more headache but at the same time, I have to find something for FI since he has two good friends and he really wants to include them in a way or another. Any suggestions ladies?