Reality vs. Etiquette

M1ssJ

I'm curious to know....How many people did not extend plus ones to their single friends? Or to just some single friends? How did you decide?

footballwife77

UGGHHHH. off topic RSVP rant- I did to the person PLUS ONE. this person just rsvp'd her 5 friggin kids!!!!!!!!!

MrsBoss2012

No ring no bring PERIOD! Engaged couples included in the ring group. Exception SIL brought her bf but we are friends with him anyway and best man brought his uninvited girlfriend. He was pulled to the side by DH and he came and apologized to me. We took into consideration if there was a single person who would know absolutely no one. We would have extended them a plus one but we did not have anyone in that situation.

leatba

We decided against plus 1s. I refuse to pay for someone I don't know. FI agrees. I did however tell one of my girls that she could bring her usual functional date so that she would know someone other than me. I know him though

ladycane015

If I don't know your bf/gf they aren't invited. Sorry lol. Almost Nobody is having a "plus one" for me. There are quite a few couples but only because we know and hang out w/ both ppl with the exception of maybe 2. If its their husband/wife then i'm ok w/ inviting them even if i don't know them. I'm just not into spending on this random person that doesn't know me and you may or may not still be in a relationship with next month.

MrsBad13

Everybody in my BP has S/O that they are either married to or been with 3 yrs+. One bm and gm are babymama/babydaddy. Little sis is MOH and her bf is a usher. My cousin is married and other friend has been with her guy for 5 yrs. BM..no date, FI  (GM2) brother gf is not coming dont know her except her name. GM3, he and gf broke up, him and BM has been warned they cant being a +1. sorry for ya. 

Now for the guest..I do have a couple of cosuins who live oot and I told them no +1. Idk them and not spending money for ppl I dont know. I can spend that money on my b-list ! 

MrsBad13

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[QUOTE]No ring no bring PERIOD! Engaged couples included in the ring group. Exception SIL brought her bf but we are friends with him anyway and best man brought his uninvited girlfriend. He was pulled to the side by DH and he came and apologized to me. We took into consideration if there was a single person who would know absolutely no one. We would have extended them a plus one but we did not have anyone in that situation.
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</div><div>off topic..I see you got your siggy pic..nice ! lol </div>

thedivav

Still figuring that out like my aunt her "man" they ain't married been together since forever

MrsBoss2012

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[QUOTE]Still figuring that out like my aunt her "man" they ain't married been together since forever
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Oh I have quite a few common law marriage family members. We considered them as married.

MrsBoss2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reality vs. Etiquette : off topic..I see you got your siggy pic..nice ! lol 
Posted by MrsBad13[/QUOTE]



Yes ma'am thank you!

keyaira04

We allowed plus ones for esp for his two single sisters ( his deal). I think he just felt they were family and would get over it?? Not the best or nice answer, but just my thoughts on how he dealt with his guest list.

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i'm somebody's plus one at a wedding tomorrow.  i gotta tell you from the guest's perspective (speaking only for me) I think 2 things. It was kind of awesome of her to make sure her *primary guest* doesn't feel lonely, especially considering the cost and that she didn't have to.  AND 2:  I don't belong here.  no bride should be meeting somebody for the first time ever at a party she's paying to host.   <---  that ain't fitna stop me from going to get my steak and mojitos though.

20pearls16

I couldn't afford any plus ones. My husband made one exception for his cousin who has been with his GF for over a year. I felt, "some sort of way" about it but I allowed it. I heard some grumbings about not being able to bring a guest but no one was offering any money either.

nbrown501

 I feel yall on the plus one. I was concern about that one myself. I dont want to go over my limit but I thought it was rude not to include a guest if they were single. But after to seeing all your comments that will bring my count down tremendously.

pearls687

If people were married or in a relationship, I gave them a plus one and invited them by name on the envelope.  Truly single people did not get a plus one to just be bringing any random person.  I only had one person write in somebody's name when the invitation was specifically for them only.  Even though the written in +1 happened to be somebody I knew (and was a hostess at her wedding years ago), I haven't seen or talked to her in 5+ years so it was still a NO. 

M1ssJ

It's like we're kin! I extended to ppl who were in a ringed or common law relationship. I invited 45 just girlfriends because either they would be alone or because I'm friends with that person. The few who did cry about it got a math lesson and the swan song.

HardyLove222

No plus ones here! Only "common law" married folk, "legally" married folk and engaged folk lol

I can't afford for people to bring a random friend.

nursing2u

For me..I figured if they are willing to fly to the destination... the least I can do is invite them....