uninvited guests

chescam

So I had my guests update their addresses online. Well one lady emailed me back wanting to know the date so that she can schedule it in for her and her son. I've informed her of the date but maybe she forgot... ok I get that. But her son is not invited. She is one of the last persons I expected something like this from. Should I tell her now that her 17 year old son is not invited or should I let her find out when she gets the invite. 

I really don't want to offend her but our family's are huge and I have not seen my family in years. The majority of our family members are coming from out of state/country and while I do want her to be there, I had no intentions of inviting her son.

kiyamurph

If you are for sure not going to budge on the decision to not invite her son then I'd just tell her now, that way there's no confusion as to whether or not he can come when she gets the invite.

busybruck

I would tell her now so she does not begin making more plans. Just stop the confusion before it gets started.

lil01

Ditto the pp, especially since she's contacting you regarding it. Might as well get it over with now.

ejagers

I agree.  Even if this causes a riff, it is something you are dealing with now instead of later.  Family trumps friends/associates.  I hope everything works out for you.