Ghetto MIL

MsRichard83

I love my MIL, she is real cool!! At the same time, she can be very ghetto, and when it comes to this wedding, she is acting that way. She is tripping on our guest list saying she wants a copy of our guest list to see who she wants to add!! We keep telling her just give us your list and if we have any duplicates we can just cross them out, but she's not listening.

On top of that my parents are paying for everything. Very expensive, but they want me to have a beautiful wedding. The cost covers 150 people. My fiance is fine with that, but she comes in screaming about how he has that many in his family alone so ya'll gone have to raise that, cause she is not going to tell people they can't come to her sons wedding.

My fiance was so pissed off, and so was I because you haven't contributed a dime, but trying to come in and take over, which is her normal personality. She has 4 sons, and she trys to control all of them.  My fiance stands his ground sometimes, but not nearly enough. Then of course on the wedding day she wants to come in like "Tasha Mack" with a short, strapless dress to make everyone jealous, I'm like you can be sexy, but the Mother of the Groom should be classy!!

I'm nervous for the clash that may happen soon. I love her and enjoy her company but I want a fun yet classy wedding, but my MIL wants the spotlight and my fiance thinks it's cute or funny, but only to a certain extent! I don't know what to do, I guess just grin and bear it! Let's not mention that after not putting a cent in she was like "WHERE IS MY NAME" on the wedding invitation SMH!!!

codom

whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah FMIL needs to go sit down some where.....if your parents have agreed to pay for 150 people then ou need to sit FI down and explain to him that if ou guys already have 150 on the guest list and FMIL wants to add more than HE AND his MAMA need to come up with the difference.......see how quick he grows a backbone and think its NOT cute anymore......my FMIL was kinda like that......she kept insisting that we needed this and that at our reception and we needed to invite this person or that person (mind u df and i are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves although MY mom is paying for the cake and MY dad is paying for photog and MY sister is paying for the DJ) i told df his mother could invite ANYBODY she wanted as long as SHE paid for them to come! we reached our max with our budget and she was still calling people telling them to come......imagine how much of a twit she looked like calling people telling them nevermind....she has soooooooo many people pissed at her right now but guess what? not my problem....i have a hard time with people always wanting to take over when they havent contributed $h!t!!

Gift928

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_ghetto-mil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:4a0f1100-4244-4162-82ef-dddc75703cc3Post:cfb12f37-5d72-41ad-81df-a38fb04eaa94">Ghetto MIL</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Let's not mention that after not putting a cent in she was like "WHERE IS MY NAME" on the wedding invitation SMH!!!
</strong>Posted by MsRichard83[/QUOTE]

Bwahahah!!!!

The NERVE! <~~~ is slowly becoming my favorite phrase

mikimoto6

Your HTB has to talk to his mother. If you try to have that convo, she is going to paint you out to be the dirty dog, despite how right you are.  Decide with your HTB what your position on the additional guests are and have him communicate that to her.  The other thing you can do to shut that "they need to come to the wedding" convo down is to tell her exactly how much it will cost for those 150 people that she cannot say no to.  If she has to cough up a check for the 150 people at $150 per person, she will think twice about it.  Dollars and sense are always the thing that makes people rational about the guest list.  

Thankfully, FI and I are financing our own wedding so we don't have to listen to ANYONE about who needs to come. I even told my mother that she needed to get her midn right and calm down because its our money.  We are going to have a nice intimate wedding, without my parents money.  I'm not willing to give up control so I need to keep other people's money out of the mix.  

missowens

wow , is she serious?  Good Luck with MIL

lisa4766

I would hand her the list and then hand her a bill for the extra people she wants to add to the wedding.  Let her know that YOUR parents agreed to pay for the first 150.  She is more then welcomed to add more, but first she must pay for them.   Also, remind her that this is your and FH wedding... End of story.

ThunderKitten2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_ghetto-mil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:4a0f1100-4244-4162-82ef-dddc75703cc3Post:94208864-3e92-465a-98cf-3d05ff302039">Re: Ghetto MIL</a>:
[QUOTE]I would hand her the list and then hand her a bill for the extra people she wants to add to the wedding.  Let her know that YOUR parents agreed to pay for the first 150.  She is more then welcomed to add more, but first she must pay for them.   Also, remind her that this is your and FH wedding... End of story.
Posted by lisa4766[/QUOTE]

All of this!