Wedding dress decision? LONG

trishaselby

I went shopping for the first time last weekend and went to two smaller stores in Spokane with my mom and FSIL. It was fun but I really only really liked one dress. It seemed like you can quickly put a dress on and already know it's not for you. So the one dress that I actually like so far was at a shop that won't let you take pictures, especially becuase the owner says the dress is an Allure exclusive (or something like that) that is only available at her store. I searched high and low online for a picture-no where to be found I am planning on going shopping a few more times, possibly next weekend. I can't get that dress out of my head- It's a mermaid sweetheart neckline, with rouching in a diamond white with a four foot train and 73 covered buttons down the back. It fit me like a glove and flattered my tall figure. Part of me is wondering if a mermaid dress still feels like a "wedding dress". You know it's not your traditional ball gown. But I don't like the feeling of being lost in the dress. The dress doesn't have too much detail but I think we would add a broch or two to dress it up. I didn't want to take off the dress. The whole experience is quite overwhelming. I suppose I should go shopping next weekend to see if I continue to compare all dresses to that ONE or if it's off the list. I also am planning on going shopping over Thanksgiving break with my FMIL and family (partily to involve them and share the experience)! Advice? TIA

sjlarobadiere

try and a few more that are similar to the one you can't get out of your head. Maybe some with more detailing? Also maybe try a few other styles again just to be sure. I love the mermaid style, I can't wear it myself but I feel it's a beautiful style. I also dislike the bi poofy ball gowns..not for me.Good luck!

sarack

So would the lady tell you what the dress was called? Or you have just been blindly searching for it? That is kinda crazy. I also say that you should try on similar dresses. I really think that taking a pic of yourself is necessary. Just so you can see yourself in it. If you can't find anything that compares, try it ok again and if you still feel the same, buy it.

SaraAnnAlvarado2010

My mom always says if you love it get it! Don't wait too long, wedding dresses move in and out of availability very fast! You don't want to be stuck thinking "Damn! I should've bought that dress!" My dress is a modified mermaid, it flares a little past the hips and flatters my curvy figure. It feels like "my wedding dress", so if it is such an awesome fit, I say go for it chica!

dmw_2010

If you love it, it's your dress.  I'd say try on some other dresses in similar styles, but if you can't get that one out of your head?  Go back and get it.

pirategirlpink

I know what you mean, I wanted a shorter dress but when I tried it on it just didn't feel like the right thing.  If you didn't want to take it off thats a good sign!  Also, if you try on too many it sort of gets confusing and overwhelming. Thats just my experience though. GL!

jennyann28

I understand how you feel because now I'm torn between a ballgownish dress and a more mermaidy one. They are SO different, I just really can't choose. I think it's weird that a random store in Spokane would be the ONLY store to have an Allure dress. When you're over here, you should check Bellevue Bridal. They carry Allure dresses AND allow you to take pictures. I don't know if they have your dress (obviously), but it's worth a shot. I cannot make a decision on my dress without pics of me in it, so I totally think it's worth it to try to find it somewhere where you can.

melissa82

Focus on what you like, and not what a bridal gown is "supposed" to be. I always pictured myself in a big dress, but that idea went RIGHT out the window when I tried one on--way too heavy and just too big, felt like I could never dance, move, have fun in a dress like that, it just wasn't for me. Get what you feel great in.The shop owner sounds shady. If it is an Allure dress, I bet any shop that carries Allure can order it (though they may not have a sample). I mean, does she really expect you to believe they are going to manufacture a dress for ONE store? And if they were going to do that, it certainly wouldn't be a store in Spokane, but NYC, LA, Chicago, etc.

Tygirljojo

You are correct - you can have a dress on, not have it zipped/tied/buttoned and just be like "Uh, no.  Not for me."  I'm glad you found a dress you love, but I agree with Melissa.  In reading your post, it sounded very similar to what a bridal shop over here pulled on Jennlin and just sounds too sketchy to me.  If you want, post up on FB the name of the shop - when I was looking at possibly getting a dress from shops in Spokane I did a little bit of research on the shops and found one to be iffy and other to be fine.  I'd be happy to see if I can find anything out for you - I don't want to see crap happen to a fellow Knottie.