My Wedding

Staceymp2010

Hello all my name is Stacey I'm getting married July 7 2012 I can not wait but I have a problem and it is My mother and My aunt. I love them to deth but they have taken over my wedding. My aunt is so happy to be doing this because her daughter would not not let her do anything at her wedding. My mom is happy I'm the youngest and my sister and her partner did there thing and did not tell anyone I just saw oneday her GF had the same last name as mine now OK! LOL. So back to my wedding they are doing all of my decor. I mean they have some good ideas and I know it will look wonderful when it is all done. But they have taken some of the things that I wanted to have like my candy bar. My aunt is like No! people will be digging all in that candy and have stuff all over the place . My cousin is like Don't let them just take over your wedding let them know what you want at your wedding. But how do I tell the both of them that i still want this and that with out hurtting ther feelings and pluse i guess I should be happy they are paying for it all, and I am don't get me wrong but I want MY CANDY BAR !

missowens

I think you just have to let them know.  It's YOUR wedding, and let her know there are some things you would like to have to personalize the wedding.  A Candy Bar is a good idea, I plan on having one also.  Candy Bars really aren't that messy because there will be scoops for the candy.  Good Luck!


Oh and welcome to the board Stacy!  Happy Planning

Carla1019

First I would like to say WELCOME!! We are date twins.

I believe that a candy bar is a great idea. Maybe you could show them pictures or articles where they are a great success. Sometimes people don't understand when they aren't use to it.

It's almost a blessing and curse when people help pay for YOUR wedding. FI and I decided not to accept any money from others because of this reason.

Staceymp2010

Thanks ladies for all the wonderful advice.  I am soooo very greatful to have my mother my FI mom passed away so WE Love my mom to deth but she can be a bit controlling at times.  But I have alway been able to talk to her. @ Carla I had been seeing we have the same date   how is your planning going? also how are your  guest with it being so close to the 4th?

wallacje

Welcome to the board Stacy!!

I agree with PP, you have to let them know who's day it is.

KYPHILLY

show them the pictures, then let them read this post. *Walk out and say you have to go to tinkle, and give them time to read it. Then booo-yahhh open the door to the conversation.

lisa4766

Start off with "I love you both sooo much and I appreciate all of the help that you want to give me for my wedding...big pause... However.....  and then just tell them.  They will be hurt at first but they will eventually understand.  Let them know that you have had a vision of how your wedding should be and that it is very important that your wedding is in fact your vision.  Dont do it when you are fed up and up set.  Do it while every one is calm maybe over lunch in a public plave where they will have to remain calm and listen to what you have to say.