Bridal Shower Dilemma

christinapayne · February 2010

Ok, so I am torn about my bridal shower, and I need you ladies' opinions.

My MOH and Matron of Honor have been planning my bridal shower for a couple of months now. They were trying to decide on a date. My MOH called me to ask when I would like to have the shower, and I told her whichever date they pick will be fine. My MOH who is out of town, suggested having it the Thursday of my wedding (which is a Saturday) since she will be in town then. She most likely won't been able to attend if it's earlier than that.

Well, I talked to my Matron of Honor, and she said having it during the week will not allow some of the guests I would like to invite to come. She said having it the weekend before will be better for me because most people won't have to work, and we could have it earlier in the day. I like this idea, and told her to go with it. But, now I am feeling bad because I really want my MOH to attend. However, I don't want to make accommodations for only one person. Is it wrong to change the date to a Saturday or should I keep it the Thursday before the wedding?

TIA!

eagles347 · February 2010

Although it is a tough decision, I think you made the right one. I also think your MOH will understand. You made the most logical choice...maybe on the Thursday before the wedding, you and your nearest and dearest could do something extra special to make up for your MOH not being able to make it to the Saturday shower...be sure to still give her a token of appreciation for hosting since she's helped with the planning thus far.

desi2002 · February 2010

I agree, it is the best decision. maybe have a girls nite out on the thrusday

eagles347 · February 2010

@ Desi...our weddings are a week apart! Doesn't it seem so far away? I know the time will fly, but I'm ready now!

KSTURGIS · February 2010

Unfortunately, ive been in the same position and will continue to be until the end. One of my bms is from oot. So unfortunately, things have been planned with out her. She was not able to make it to the e-party because her schedule conflicted with everyone else's. And It might be the same for the bridal shower and rd. I feel horrible, but decisions have to be based on a majority. She is one of my best friends, almost like a sister, so I know that she understands. But its still hard. My bm wont be in until the thursday before my wedding as well. Most of my bp will be at work that friday. Since im off, i'll probably just spend the day with her at the nail salon or something. Im not sure yet. hth