African American Weddings

Seriously!!!!! (Vent)

I spoke to my FSIL this weekend who informed that while her husband ordered and received his suit the other groomsmen have not. We're having a partial destination wedding in my FH country where he was born and raised (The British Virgin Islands). The two groomsmen that haven't ordered their suits yet live there. So I ask my FH, why is it okay that my girlfriends have shelled $700 for flights, $1500 for hotel fees, hosted a shower and bachelorette party, gave me a gift at said shower and bachelorette party, shopped for their dresses and then purchased a $300 bridesmaid gown without complaint and your brother and nephew can't simply order a $100 suit. The suits are custom made and take 6 weeks from the date of order. There is about 31 days left til our wedding, seriously!!! So I get on facebook and as the nephew why he hadn't ordered yet and he had the nerve to tell me he told my FH to order his last week and that he would reimburse him. I'm like, we're busy planning a wedding and paying all the associated cost and you're asking him to pay it. I'm disgusted and angry.

I told my FH today that if they don't have the suit they'll be in the audience. And he had the nerve to look at me like, "how dare you". I felt a Bridezilla moment approaching so I had to ignore him for the rest of our commute.

Re: Seriously!!!!! (Vent)

  • edited December 2011
    Oh my I am so sorry the fellas are trippin'

    It seems guys take these things so lightly and I guess they believe it will all work out" I don't know how or why they think it will all work.

    I hope they will get them in time and it will all work. With a month left I am sure you are stressed! Take a moment breathe, say a quick prayer for the suits and all those involved, from the men wearing them to the people making them and check back with them all in a week. Especially if you are serious about them being in the audience if they do not have them.

    I hope it all works out


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  • edited December 2011
    IF POSSIBLE, do you think maybe ur FI CAN order the suit for him? The ONLY reason i'm suggesting this is because ATLEAST you are guaranteed the suit has been ordered. If he is a trusted person and will def. reimburse him back, i think maybe this may be the best option.
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  • DancerppfDancerppf member
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    edited December 2011
    Earlier I was too mad to be reasonable. I just don't know if there is enough time for it to be done and money is so tight right now in the last stages but I will try. Thanks for the reasonable suggestions. My stomach is starting to settle, lol!
  • edited December 2011
    How horrible!  I would be peeved too!  Like others have said, maybe just don't have them as groomsmen, they knew about this responsibility and didn't do anything.  I would tell FH that shows how much they are thinking about him too...
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  • DancerppfDancerppf member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_seriously-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:69262c41-3d22-4cae-8211-479d7654b605Post:f6de2b8d-fe01-486d-a915-8a49d4272646">Re: Seriously!!!!! (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, this may just be me, but if they waited until the last minute to say they needed you to purchase the suit, what are the chances you will ever be reimbursed.  <strong>This is one of those situations that I would just be like, you can still be involved in the wedding somehow, but you don't have to stand up...</strong>maybe you can wear your own suit and be an usher instead :)  Just sayin.
    Posted by empegues[/QUOTE]

    I'm truly feeling this way. I don't need another thing to worry about. If it's not priority for you why should it be for me. But damn it messes up my symmetry.
  • FabbiegirlFabbiegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_seriously-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:69262c41-3d22-4cae-8211-479d7654b605Post:f6de2b8d-fe01-486d-a915-8a49d4272646">Re: Seriously!!!!! (Vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, this may just be me, but if they waited until the last minute to say they needed you to purchase the suit, what are the chances you will ever be reimbursed.  This is one of those situations that I would just be like, you can still be involved in the wedding somehow, but you don't have to stand up... maybe you can wear your own suit and be an usher instead :)  Just sayin.
    Posted by empegues[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>I would agree with this.</div>
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