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msbdumas

OBEY in your vows..me and my mom and guy friend who is a pastor was talking about the vows and he wanted to stress to me that taking the word OBEY out is not following the christian way and that if we want to have a Godly blessed marriage that word must remian in our vows !

What are your thoughts ladies ?

MissusD1116

Wow! Hadn't heard that, I will ask my brother, who is a pastor, what his thoughts are on it.

20pearls16

 I think we are using Love, Honor and Cherish. I do know that there is submit somewhere in there.

joneka

we kept the original vows for religous reasons, but they GO both ways!!!!!! We both said and committed to them..

When they say obey..its not like slavish...the husband is the head of the household..although you communicate and discuss things..the husband ultimately has the final discision..you have roles as husband and wife..I think its just to make sure those roles dont get twisted or confused..there is reasoning for them.

Im not sure the lord would shun your marriage if you changed the wording..but didnt want to take any chances..lol

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I can't speak on removal or inclusion, but my personal feeling is that it's not meant in the literal sense of the word.  The true spirit of the vow (to me) is about being obedient in your partnership to God, not necessarily each other.   I'm sure there's tons of scripture interpretation about it, and I can see where it would be considered not following to remove it because if you (general you) are one of God's servants, part of service is about obeying Him.  HIM, not him lol.    I'd also like to think that if it is included, it applies/refers to both of us.  just my $.02.

How do you feel, are you leaning more one way or the other?

msbdumas

I plan on having it in there...like joneka..don't want to risk anything but was just wondering for you girls who are already married did you keep in or take out and those who are in waiting what they plan for part of their vow ! Miss yea check for me and see what he says !

mejai1

I hadn't given it a lot of thought yet... I wouldn't mind leaving it in there, just as long as he knows not to take it too far... (LOL)!