Bridal shower/Nite

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I'm from Detroit but I live in Clearwater ( 2yrs now) - so my whole family is in Michigan... So i have 3 bridesmaids and 2 are here in Clearwater ( 1 is a co-worker and the other is my FI Niece) -- So last night was my bridal night out - and how it was explained to me that is was suppose to be a bridal shower and bachlorette party - so thats what i was expecting.... MAJOR F'ING FAIL!!

1. THE BRIDESMAID THAT WAS HOSTING (MY CO-WORKER) TOLD ME IN APRIL ABOUT THE DATE - SO ITS BEEN ON MY CALENDER... I GAVE HER A LIST OF PEOPLE TO INVITE AND EVEN MY SIZES FOR GIFTS....

2. ANOTHER FRIEND OF OURS FUTURE SISTER IN LAW - WAS HAVING A PARTY THE SAME NIGHT - SO LET'S COMBINE THEM - WHICH WAS FINE WITH ME BECAUSE ALL OF MY FRIENDS LIVE IN DETROT...   (KEEP 1 AND 2 IN MIND) 

SO - I SCHEDULE MY HAIR AND MAKE UP TRIAL THE SAME DAY AS MY PARTY - SO I'LL LOOK GOOD - AND I GOT A COCKTAIL PARTY DRESS AND HEELS - THE WHOLE 9 ! 

( I normally DONT WEAR HEELS DUE TO BAD ANKLE PAIN)....

THE EVENING STARTS AT 10PM ( WTF - REALLY) - SO MY COWORKER/BRIDESMAID PICKS ME UP.... WE GO TO THIS VERY UPSCALE CLUB AND I THINK GREAT! --- NOT! 

WE GET THERE AND THE OTHER BRIDE AND HER FRIENDS ARE ALREADY THERE ON THE DANCE FLOOR - SHE IS COVERED IN ALL THE BACHOLETTE NOVELTY SUFF - A VEIL- A SHOT GLASS W/PENIS TIDE AROUND HER NECK - A FLASHING SASH; SERIOUSLY THIS IS A VERY VERY VERY UPSCALE CLUB DOWNTOWN.... SHE LOOKED A MESS.... SO SHE TRIES TO GIVE ME A FLASHING PENIS NECKLACE TOO -- I LAUGHED IT OFF AND PUT IT IN MY CLUCH... I CAN NOW TELL THAT I HAVE BE GREATLY MIS-LEAD ( BRIDAL SHOWER THIS IS NOT) -- SO I ASK MY BM WHERE IS EVERYONE ELSE AT -- SO THEN TELLS ME THAT I TOLD THEM ABOUT IT ON THURSDAY! WTF DO YOU MEAN THURSDAY - YOU TOLD ME ABOUT IT IN APRIL!!! SO NOW I KNOW THAT NO ONE ELSE IS COMING! { IF THIS WOULD OF BEEN A DATE I WOULD OF MADE Him TAKE ME HOME!!!}  

SO BY THIS TIME I'M PISSED AND ON THE VERGUE OF TEARS SO I ASK " WHICH TABLE IS OURS" THESE LAME CHICKS LOOK AT ME LIKE IM SLOW AND SAY " OH WE DIDNT GET A TABLE"  

I GET NOT GETTING BOTTLE TABLE SERVICE --- BUT YOU DUMMYS DIDNT RESERVE A REGULAR TABLE!  I PROCEED TO THE BAR - WHICH WAS STANDING ONLY -- AND I ORDER THE STRONGEST DRINK - TANQUREAY DOUBLE.....      

SO NEEDLESS TO SAY THAT I HAD NO FUN AT ALL AND THE WHOLE NITE I KEPT DRINKING ( I BOUGHT MY OWN CAUSE NO ONE OFFERED TO BUY) TO KEEP FROM CRYING - WHEN I GOT HOME AT 130AM ( LAME AS HELL) I CALLED MY BESTFRIEND IN DETROIT AND I CRIED MYSELF TO SLEEP.... 

REMEBER THAT THIS WAS SUPPOSE TO BE A SHOWER - S0 MY MOTHER, SISTER AND BESTFRIEND SHIPPED ME NIGHTTIES FROM MICHIGAN...... 

I'M SUPER LET DOWN - THE BALL WAS NOT ONLY DROPPED BUT RAN OVER TOO - I DONT WHAT TO SAY TO MY BM ( BOTH OF THEM WHO ARE IN FL) BECAUSE THAT WAS SOME BULL-ISH....   WERE SPENDING OVER 11K ON THIS WEDDING AND NOW I'M ADDING THE 30.00 IN DRINKS TO MY WEDDING SPREADSHEET TO...  I WAS REALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS PARTY - BUT I COULD OF HAD A V8! 

SO WHAT DO I DO/SAY TO MY FL BRIDAL PARTY??? 

keyaira04

I'm sorry ((double hugs)).  I would address them on this matter and let them know of you disappointment. 

thedivav

aww so sorry to hear *hugs* 

rowenac82

Definitely sorry to hear things didn't go as planned based on BMs description of the evening. I am not sure that it is necessary to express how you feel to your BMs especially if this was their first atempt at doing something like this. I am personally an "experienced" BM...lol...and I also like to entertain. So when it comes to throwing my friends parties, I go all out. But not everyone is like that. If you want a "do over" maybe you could do something in Detroit and be a bit more involved in the planning if those involved are open to that. Sorry again that it was a dissapointment. 

kcc76

Oh wow hugs I am sorry that things did go well, but today is a new day and you are that much closer to your big day! I don't know if I would say anything. If they really know you they should really already know you didn't have a good time.

TL25

I'm sorry Aisha. I think you should say something after the BM brings it up. She'll be like oh did u like it and you'll be like while I did appreciate your efforts, however I did not like x,y, and z... and I was highly disappointed with the turn out. Sorry again.

FutureMzHayden

Aww hun I'm sorry to hear that... I'm sure things will turn around and just pray about it first before you say anything to them.  

shiravduncan

Sorry city twin (from Detroit but live in Ann Arbor)! I don't know if saying anything will make it better or worse. If they bring it up, you can let them know that you didn't expect the night o go that way and expand. Stay encouraged and excited to marry your life mate!

CreoleBride30

((hugs)) I hate that you had a terrible "shower". It's a new day and you can move pass this. It's not the end of the world. Apparently, this BM does not know you very well or as well as she should. Now, this is just me and who I am as a person: I would gracefully thank her for her efforts and leave it like that. I don't expect 100% of what I put out that I will actually receive back from someone else...especially if they don't know me as well as they should.  I say move on. It's not the end of the world. You can vent to us...we understand. It's possible that the lady who gave the party, may have really felt like she went above and beyond for you. So, saying something may put both of you in a awkward situation...especially if you have other dealings with this person.  What's important is that you are marrying your best friend. THIS is what is important. 

Also, I want to state for you to pray about it before you decide on what is the best route for you to take with this situation. He will lead you in the direction you should go. 

(((double hugs))) again

Cha

Elizabeth80

Wow, hugs and I agree with pp. Maybe you can have a get together with friends in Detroit. I do want to say though first experience or not as friends you don't let the birthday girl, bride to be, whatever buy her own drinks, don't reserve a table and don't invite people to any event with a couple days notice. Thats just common sense. Normally you would send them a thank you note or call about throwing the shower. I agree with pp in that you should thank them but let them know it wasn't what you had expected.