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Anyone Else Having this Issue?

So my mom recently said that she would rather throw two Wedding Showers. Reason being my grandma and the older folks would be overwhelmed by the younger, drunker and crazier crowd. Understood.So, my sis, my MOH and my bm, my Cuz, both had it in their heads that they were going to throw and host their own showers for me. Now that my mom is, neither wants to help host the 'older' crowd one. My cuz aunt is the technical host of the second one and now my sis and cuz are being butthurt because each had all these ideas and now they may have to compromise.I made them all sit down today and came up with a plan that since the second shower is gonna be over 35 ppl, the three of them would make sense planning together since it would split the cost three ways. I could tell my sis was irritated at my cuz, my cuz always wanted to be a wedding planner and she is uber excited to help plan and can be pushy, and I could tell my cuz was irritated, cause she has a shower planned to the T ALREADY! I guess i'm just tired of soothing ego's when I'm not even supposed to get involved in my own shower!They made peace, but I don't know how long it will last. I'm not getting involved anymore, they can hash it out.And to add icing to the cake, mom was irritated that she didn't have anyone to plan with. YOU WANTED TO HOST!So she asked if FI's mom would like to help and I told her I know she would. There, problem solved.So why do I feel like this is just the beginning of world war three?And they don't have to do anything till after holidays, but I got a feeling!Oh well, nothing I can do. Just curious if anyone else has had these issues!Thanks for the vent ladies!
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Re: Anyone Else Having this Issue?

  • carrieoz_76carrieoz_76 member
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    edited December 2011
    I haven't, but I just wanted to really encourage you not to get in the middle. Anytime they try to complain to you or use you as a go-between, just keep saying, "I don't know, have you talked to ?" The more you let them use you as a go-between, the more they will. Then not only is it stressful for you, but you can end up getting in the middle of their arguments, and nothing good can come from that.
  • edited December 2011
    tell them you're staying out of it. Pick one person who will tell you when and where to be but otherwise you want NO details - disguise it as "you want to be surprised and you trust them that it will be perfect!" weddingsshowers bring out the drama in EVERYONE!! this is all about you. end of story. Holy cow
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm takin your advice ladies! Thanks! It does seem that most wedding related things do bring out cat fights and  jealousy. Major lame. Cause I know when my sis or Cuz get married, both have said i'll be their MOH, I'm gonna be the best damn MOH I can be!No drama from this girl!
    Married 7/17/2010 Photobucket PersonalMilestone
  • edited December 2011
    Welcome to the family drama wonderland known as planning a wedding. This happens to most families - but be glad that they're fighting over who gets to throw you the best bridal shower, you lucky bride! Anyway, just like you said, let them hash it out, and just enjoy your showers. :)
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