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Dirty secrets

Ladies,
All married women keep telling me that sex is an important ingredient for a successful marriage. After being together for a while, the routine finds its way in your intimate life. I am looking for ideas to keep things spicy up. Come on Ladies, what do you do to spicy up your sex life? Let's share all out dirty secrets!

Re: Dirty secrets

  • edited December 2011
    Dressing up is the best way to add some spice. Not just lingerie. But be the naughty school gilr or nurse. Even the nerdy teacher thats breaking out of her shell. But dont just dress the part, be the part. Roll play is awesome !!!

    If your not a role play girl. Then something simple like bringing in some feathers or kissable massage oil or chocolate body paint will do the trick.

    Yes ladies, Im a freak. But ONLY for my man Laughing
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  • edited December 2011
    Be Spontaneous. The Bedroom is not the only place to GET IT ON!! I know that with kids its hard to add this in your life. TRUST ME I KNOW!! Since Kadyn has came the living room as been our bedroom so not fun anymore LOL!! (I have to get her out of our bed!!)

    KSTURGIS Love your tips!! I think I want to do some role playing for the HM!! Thanks!!
  • TINAMMTINAMM member
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    edited December 2011
    Dont make it seem like a "chore"! It is supoosed to be enjoyable for both of you. Everytime I change my hair I give my DH a name for me, when my hair is long and straight I am gundrop, when I had it redish I was sugar plum! Catching him off guard is another good one, every now and then when he gets back from a business trip I give him a welcome home gift, but not everytime he comes back because he will expect it I want him to be taken back for a minute. Dont let it be routine either you have to swtich it up they get bored, their like kids you have to keep their attention up.LOL We have been married for almost 14 years and it never gets old!
  • edited December 2011
    Whipped cream. chocolate topping and one huge a$$ cherry. Make a human sundae for him to eat!
    Play with his nipples when lying in bed with him.
    Shoot play with yourself while he watches!
    Breathe softly on the back of his neck.
    Sit on his lapt butt a$$ naked and start to shake your hips girl!
    Make breakfast in the nude
    Take his cookies when he is sleeping! (FI loves this)
    put hersey kisses down his stomach and eat them or lick them off of him and vice versa.

    (disclaimer: using rodeo's advice may cause orgasms, moaning, people hearing you, children and neighbors smoking a cigar for you)
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  • edited December 2011
    When he comes home from work, meet him at the door with lingerie or nothing on. Dress up in one of his button-down shirts with nothin on underneath. Eat fruit and whipped cream off each other. Let him pull your hair sometimes lol. Go to a club and dance on him all night like your in college again, the difference is he can take you home afterward. Introduce some vibrating toys into the bedroom. Just be spontaneous like Kristi said. HTH lol Wink
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  • edited December 2011
    Rodeo, We need to hang out. I need to learn from you mama!
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]Whipped cream. chocolate topping and one huge a$$ cherry. Make a human sundae for him to eat! Play with his nipples when lying in bed with him. Shoot play with yourself while he watches! Breathe softly on the back of his neck. Sit on his lapt butt a$$ naked and start to shake your hips girl! Make breakfast in the nude Take his cookies when he is sleeping! (FI loves this) put hersey kisses down his stomach and eat them or lick them off of him and vice versa. (disclaimer: using rodeo's advice may cause orgasms, moaning, people hearing you, children and neighbors smoking a cigar for you)
    Posted by rodeo417[/QUOTE]

    LMAO Rodeo girl have you been peeking in our daggone window lmao!!!!!!!!!!!

    I think that marriage folks have to continously reinvent sex. It does get boring and mundane after a while. Sometimes FI use to act as though it is my duty to give him the booty. That turned me off sometimes. Since that talk, he waits to see where I am mentally. He don't stress or crowd me anymore. Now the poor man can't get no rest lol. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" />
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  • gatineaubridegatineaubride member
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    edited December 2011
    THanks Ladies for all the great ideas! Rodeo, you should write a book, LOL!
    Don't hesitate to continue posting any other dirty suggestions you may have!
  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    Rodeo you crack me up!  I'm a bit of a prude when it comes to this stuff.  FI loves my sexy lingerie.  So I do the whole greet him at the door with sexy lingerie on thing.  It does get routine when you live together.  When we were just dating and didn't live together I used to send him sexy text messages and come to his apartment wearing a coat and sexy lingerie.  He's really into heels since he's 6'7" so he told me once that he had a dream that I was wearing a pair of his favorite heels and nothing else, so one day I surprised him with just that.  I need to get back into doing that kind of stuff.  I kinda stopped doing it because he just doesn't seem to care what I wear or what I do...He just wants to have sex...period!  LOL.  And as long as we are having sex, he's having fun.  But you know, that kinda stuff is actually beneficial to me sometimes, because when I feel sexy I have more fun.  OH!  And wine helps.  Because like I said, I'm a bit prudish at times, so the wine helps me to unwind.
  • edited December 2011
    [email protected] ladies!!!! I just gave some tips that all.. When you have two freaks who been together for 3 years, the sky is the limit!!!
     The rule in our house is "no hold bar" which means everythang except other people unless they are made out of rubber....
    Get one of those huge plastic cover sheets and cover your bed and rug. add whip cream and other edibles and have a wrestling session! (now that i thought of this, we might have to try it)

    run ice down his back...
    NOW FOR MY SECRET WEAPON......TAKE NOTES LADIES!
    when giving your man oral sex, stop and take his manhood in your hand and slowly rub it against your flower...REALLLLLLLYYY SLOW...
    then slowly insert just the tip and then STOP... and just hold it... he willl scream like a baby and beag, buy you a car, etc  until he can have all of you.....if more tips
    are needed just hit me up...
    signed,

    freaky army girl!
    Anniversary
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dirty secrets : LMAO Rodeo girl have you been peeking in our daggone window lmao!!!!!!!!!!! I think that marriage folks have to continously reinvent sex. It does get boring and mundane after a while. Sometimes FI use to act as though it is my duty to give him the booty. That turned me off sometimes. Since that talk, he waits to see where I am mentally. He don't stress or crowd me anymore. Now the poor man can't get no rest lol.
    Posted by MrClintonsFirstLady09[/QUOTE]
    i swear it wasn't me!!!! lol
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  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wait!  Did you say that trick can get me a new car?!!!!  So....you said plant a flower, insert his manhood...and what again?!!! LOL!
  • edited December 2011
    lol @ Rodeo and Tam! Y'all are cracking me up.
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  • edited December 2011
    OMG OMG COME GET ME OFF THE FLOOR!! That was hilarous Rodeo! But you know I'm committing that one to memory!!! Imma use that trick for my UPLIGHTING!!!
  • edited December 2011
    *thumbs up* @ this right here ====> buy you a car Laughing

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  • edited December 2011
    I doubt if you want to google this at work, but when you can look up "How to s&*k a d!ck".  Seriously.

    If you have a laptop, place it close enough to where you can read the instructions w/o having to move away from the manhood. The "directions" alone (even if you don't get it right the first time) is a turn on! He would appreciate that you are willing to try just about anything (and he'll be releived to know that you haven't done everything with everyone thus giving his ego a mad boost).
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  • edited December 2011
    *scratchin' my head* They got inskructions on the internet on how to s*ck a man man? O MY!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_dirty-secrets?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:7f52234c-e4a1-4be3-afe1-80755cae9482Post:a8b02c3e-f98a-46fc-99ed-31b6a645dbd7">Re: Dirty secrets</a>:
    [QUOTE]I doubt if you want to google this at work, but when you can look up "How to s&*k a d!ck".  Seriously. If you have a laptop, place it close enough to where you can read the instructions w/o having to move away from the manhood. The "directions" alone (even if you don't get it right the first time) is a turn on! He would appreciate that you are willing to try just about anything (and he'll be releived to know that you haven't done everything with everyone thus giving his ego a mad boost).
    Posted by QueenFromQueenz[/QUOTE]
    who needs directions?!?!? that type of person must have teeth made out of razors?
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  • gatineaubridegatineaubride member
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    edited December 2011
    Rodeo! I love you!  I will try your trick for oral sex.  Keep inspiring us!
    Tam Tam, you sound just like me since I am also a prude!
  • edited December 2011
    Most of my friends are guys (well they used to be before FH and I got serious but that's another story) and you'd be surprised at what they talk about... how even the <u>most experienced</u> woman can use an oral tutorial. lol

    And it 's not just a oral for beginners how-to, it shows diffrent techniques (The Traveling Figure Eight for example). Ah the things one find online during a snowstorm. lmao

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dirty secrets : who needs directions?!?!? that type of person must have teeth made out of razors?
    Posted by rodeo417[/QUOTE]
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]Most of my friends are guys (well they used to be before FH and I got serious but that's another story) and you'd be surprised at what they talk about... how even the most experienced woman can use an oral tutorial. lol And it 's not just a oral for beginners how-to, it shows diffrent techniques (The Traveling Figure Eight for example). Ah the things one find online during a snowstorm. lmao In Response to Re: Dirty secrets :
    Posted by QueenFromQueenz[/QUOTE]


    I'm going to look that up NOW!! I need a few new tricks!!! Good Looking Out LMAO!!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_dirty-secrets?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:7f52234c-e4a1-4be3-afe1-80755cae9482Post:1af4581f-f52b-4d41-bd84-e84a7907b184">Re: Dirty secrets</a>:
    [QUOTE]Most of my friends are guys (well they used to be before FH and I got serious but that's another story) and you'd be surprised at what they talk about... how even the most experienced woman can use an oral tutorial. lol And it 's not just a oral for beginners how-to, it shows diffrent techniques (The Traveling Figure Eight for example). Ah the things one find online during a snowstorm. lmao In Response to Re: Dirty secrets :
    Posted by QueenFromQueenz[/QUOTE]
    SMDH! I had to listen to my cousins complain about the flavor of the week biting them.... Out of 15 there are only 2 girls and that includes me.....
    Some of the stories they would tell...but they told me all the men tricks of the trade..
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dirty secrets : SMDH! I had to listen to my cousins complain about the flavor of the week biting them.... Out of 15 there are only 2 girls and that includes me..... Some of the stories they would tell...but they told me all the men tricks of the trade..
    Posted by rodeo417[/QUOTE]

    We have mostly girls in my family :( so I had to rely on guy friends. Now that they're gone I have to google stuff. lol I'm trying to come with surprises on wedding night mmmkay?
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