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TysWife2Be

What are your "roles" for the house and how do you maintain them?

If you do not live together, has this been a subject that has come up?

sweetjess2011

I tend to all the daily duties since im a stay at home mom. I take care of the cleaning, getting the boys ready for school, the dogs and laundry and making dinner.

FI tends to the dogs once he's home, any errands I need him to go on, takes me to the stores etc,  takes care of the trash, keeps his dirty laundry off the floor, takes the boys to sport events etc that they need to go too. He would probably have alot more if I worked out of the house.

BlissPhilly

We don't live together but the subject came up recently about chores once we get married. Groomzilla told me he doesn't cook...I told him well then you're going to be hungry! WTH
He said he'll do the laundry, clean the house and wash the dishes but he's not cooking...I looked at hima nd said "that is not going to happen." If I have to work a 9 to 5 then he has to help out MORE in the house. I'm serious he will not see a plate if he thinks I'm going to be working all day and cooking everyday too. And Groomzilla's definition of clean is NOT my definition of clean so I will STILL be cleaning too!

lyar915

There is no set roles in the house. We both cook and clean. I do the deep cleaning lol! . He does take out the trash and maintain the outside. It works for us.  

Carla1019

We don't live together yet but we both like to clean and cook together. So if I'm cooking the sides he will cook the meat (steaks, fish, shrimp, etc) or I'll cook the meat and he'll cook the sides. Same with cleaning, I might take one half of the house he has the other half. If I'm folding clothes he will iron.

We are really good at working 50/50. If one of us completely had a bad day and don't feel like doing a thing we understand each other and give that person a rest.

I'm lucky that he learned to be self sufficient before I came into the picture.

cincy2011

We don't live together yet, but we've established that FI will be the main chef and I will be the main cleaner.  But we will help each other as well. 

lil01

We live together & its always been 50/50. We don't "expect" anything from each other. I may clean more & he may cook more (usually he does) of vice versa. If we clean together, he'll take a few rooms & I'll take others. That's usually how it goes.

bbrown185

I do most of the household chores- cooking, cleaning, laundry, which I do two loads a day.  He takes care of the trash, our lawn, and our pets needs, but on the days when I am dead tired or need a break or whatever, he always offers to let me have that time.  Every wednesday night, we make homemade pizzas and so we all (Dustin, Me, and our daughter, Hannah -5)cook together and every Friday we make a fun dessert- which we do together as well.

eagles347

We don't live together for real just yet, but we do plenty of extended visits so we've pretty much adopted our roles. We both work so things around the house are shared responsibility.

I pretty much take lead on cooking, dishes, laundry, and "straightening" or tidying things up around the house on a day to day basis.

He takes lead on yardwork, car clenaings and maintenance, and trash. He is good about cooking sometimes though and will also help with dishes or laundry if I'm tired.

My mom just commended us yesterday on how we work together. I hope we can keep it up!

lsk40

We both do it all cook clean yard work if it needs to be done someone does it who ever gets home first cooks and we wash our cars together 

island07b2b

We do not live together but have discussed the "roles".  Basically as far as household chores:

1.  Cooking - 50/50.
2.  Yard work - all him.  He insists with the exception of the landscaping.  That's all me.  I demand that. 
3.  Cars (maintenance, etc.) - All him.
4.  Ironing - all him.  I hate ironing.
5.  Trash - all him.
6.  Washing clothes - 50/50.  Folding - all me.
7.  Everything else - 50/50 or as the role demands.

However, we are so open to chucking all of the above and just each of us doing what needs to be done at the time.  So, I guess I just wrote all of that for nothing.  LOL!

sadou02

Surprisingly since FI has been here, we've shared a lot of the roles without setting up any specific tasks for each other.  It has worked out well and I hope it continues to work well that way.