Fi wants to invite everyone to this wedding but constantly complaing about the cost. He wanted a Saturday wedding which equals more $$$. Fine. Get ready to pay. Then he wanted this big wedding; where I on the other hand would've been more happy with a DW wedding and not a 200 gl. We split the list down the middle. 100 for me and 100 for him. Now this wedding been in work for 2 years now and I had to make sacrifices and give up 25 of my seats to my fiance; he has a bigger family. Now I have 75 seats compared to his 125.
Well some months ago I found out on his mock guestlist, that he was inviting all these coworkers and I was upset. I gave him those seats for family and not current "new" friends. My fi is currently working 3 jobs but really 4. One job for 11yrs, second for 6 years and the newest for 1.5 yrs. His list consist of a lot of people from his newest job; job #1. I told him months ago that his list is over by 20, 25....thought it was all taken care of.
I go to count his list today and this man is over 14 and wanted to add 7 more. I told him to start cutting before these invitations are mailed out this week. He was able to eliminate 7. But still is over. Then he started naming names of people but I told him No. He sent these people save the dates....you can not univite them now. I told him to wait on sending these people std and now this man is looking foolish. Oh well!
But the kicker to this........(keep it a secret) but my list is under 12. Yes, I have 12 seats under and I plan on keeping it that way. Our banquet manager told us the final cost depends on our final guestlist. If we come under 25 people, that can save us over $2k. Hello..we can pocket that money back or upgrade to things we really wanted. Just my list alone is saving us over $1k. So why would I tell him? That's not fair. Several of these people can be eliminated and I feel like he wants to be Mr. Popular. This a wedding and not a high school graduation party.
I feel like a bad bride but this man complains daily about working all these jobs and the cost, and we still have not paid for the honeymoon yet. I know not everyone will rsvp yes but if we go over, then that means a bill after the wedding. I also have a feeling that he counted some people as a no +1 but in fact these people are in a relationship, so he might have someone asking about that.