Venting Here (Kind of long)

KSTURGIS

Okay, so last night we went over the guest list to finalize it. For some reason I was drawing a blank on two family members that have the same first name and different last name. Because like most families, my cousins have nicknames, pumpkin, peaches, etc.......  So I blank out sometimes on the real names. But anyway. I call my nana to inquirer which family members are these. She tells me. Before I can jump off the phone she asks if Im inviting my great aunts, foster son (who is deceased), wife to the wedding. AAAHHHH NO, no offense but I didnt even know the guy. He was more my moms generation. Which means that I definitely do not know his wife. I was irked. She knows that as of now my mom, fi and I are taking on the rest of this wedding. My dad hasnt been working much lately.

Do you think thats the end ?? Well its not. She called me at 7am. So glad that I did not answer, Im not a morning person.  Left me a message, saying that my great aunt wanted to know if I was inviting this SAME lady. NO , NO NO. It does not matter who asks. The answer is still no. If  everyone is so worried about other people, because this is not the first episode of this kind, then give up some money or give up your plate. Either way LEAVE ME THE EFF ALONE !!!


Thanks for reading. Im done and please feel free to vent any frustrations below. I couldnt wait for wtf wednesdays.

tamtam7

I know exactly what you're going through.  I experienced the same thing.  My grandma runs into people at the grocery store and church, and the next thing I know I'm adding a new name to the list.  And my grandma's favorite thing to say is, well, they're not going to come, just invite them so they can send  a gift.  But I don't necessarily know if that's true.  They may decide to come because they haven't seen me in a while and they are so flattered that I thought of them, you never know.  Nonetheless I don't want to add a bunch of names to my guest list that I can't feed.  My FI seems to think I'm overeacting about the whole thing, but I just don't know. 

Dnyce7282

The guest list gets everyone! and the seating charts, I hear are difficult too... well, way back when, when we first starting wedding planning, FI's mom wanted us to invite one of her cousin's (whom she didn't invite to her wedding and has not heard the last of it til this day), so, wait we are supposed to invite her to ours so, she can shut up...she's your first cousin not my FI's! This lady is FI's mom's generation and FI hasn't even seen her since he was like 9... well, she's on our B list! So, I feel you with people wanting to invite other people whom you are not even that close to and haven't seen in years.

Anyway, one of my bridesmaids dropped out of the wedding this morning! Ugg, wait until I have 80 something days left... at this point I'm not replacing her, too close to the wedding & I have no time as it is

WTF!?!?

Spim7

I totally here where your coming from. We have 6 people in our wedding party and some how there are 32 people coming to the rehearsal dinner ?! Ummm... something is very wrong with that.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

Girlllll dont feel bad, u are not wrong for feeling like this. People sometimes do not understand the cost and headache surrounded with a guest list. GL and stand your ground!

mandikaykay

Everyone is going through this.  My most recent question was from FI's aunt wanting to know if FI's cousin's father could come just because FI's cousin is a junior bridesmaid in the wedding.  Ummm, NO.  Not only do I not know this dude cause he doesn't even come to the door to pick up his daughter (loser straight up blows the horn from the driveway and the child goes running outside), but the one time I did see him at a concert he didn't speak to me but felt the need to later tell his daughter that I was too fat to date FI.  I have yet to figure out why people don't have their filter turned on to determine what is and is not appropriate.  SMH.

berrytr

I understand completely.  Unfortunately, you may have to put on your B hat. 

adgenya

I totally understand where you're coming from. It's so annoying. Everytime my FI talks to one of his aunts or uncles, they always inquire about someone else. Half the time I just want to yell "you should probably worry about you getting an invitation before so and so getting one." 

It brought up a huge ordeal about a month and a half ago. Seriously, if his family hadn't butt in, there would have been no drama. 

summerbride11

I would cut it short now. We had a similar story and ended up with two tables full of ppl at our wedding who we haven't heard from since.  Not to sound greedy, but we could have used that money on our honeymoon or for bills, whatever.

Rhoyal_1

Girl, cut em short, no invite needed.  I understand!! FI actually told me at one point he was inviting his ex-stepfather's nephew to the wedding.  Exactly, what???  Well, I won that one but am now contending with great uncle bucky or something like that.  Here's a funny- FI does not even know the great's last names and the last time he saw them was at teh funeral of another great.  Totally fitting the old cliche about seeing everyone at weddings and funerals.  Well, not our wedding.