Tuesday Tips

TysWife2Be

Keeping Your Relationship Healthy...

What do ya got ladies?

eagles347

Compliments! He wants his ego stroked and we want to feel appreciated. It is a win-win.

FI and I have discovered that we work better when we have our girl/guy nights on the same nights or weekends. That way, we're occupied rather than one person in the same routine missing the other.

We have really been working on keeping positive attitudes and communicating with each other patiently and openly as well as compromising on things like plans with friends, family events, and even meal planning.

Although we're on hiatus, sex even when we're mad always did us some good. It allows you to destress and feel a little closer to each other at the same time.

Explaining why we act the way we do when we're in a mood is helpful too versus just having an attitude for whatever reason. I'm a Gemini and have been out of wack hormonally lately so I've been pretty wacko. He responds better when I explain what is up at the time or what besides him has aggravated me. He does the same if work was rough or if he's having some drama in his life. So far, so good.

mserika1

I always let him know how much I appreciate him.  We make sure that we have date night, even if it is just us chilling at home we are just with each other.  I try to make our home peaceful because he works alot.  We talk alot and we have learned to argue effectively.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

I think the number one thing is I will say sometimes " whatever your decide  bae is good with me', even though marriage is a joint partnership, sometimes our husbands like to feel like we trust them enough to make a sound decision that we will stand behind them on. Also, I try to not NAG as much, about leaving the toilet seat up or not putting his socks in the hamper, etc. It pet peeves me, and I curse him out when Im home alone and picking up the stuff, but I've learned to let it go. Just like he doesnt say anything when I eat cereal and leave my milk in the bowl, IT DRIVES him crazy, but I dont do it on purpose.

Another thing is we both still enjoy our friends without each other. For instance,  SaturdayDH is going to a Fantasy Football draft at his friends house, so I decided prime time to hit up Olive garden with my girls to catch up.

prncsz

We have pillow talk. Haven't had it a lot lately but when we were staying at each other houses every week before we would go to bed we would have pillow talk. Just to catch up on the day, see where we are, what we are feeling about our relationship, life, etc. Definitely will be back on the regular when we are married and under the same roof. That's just our time though to clear the air.

raganw

Giving each other space to just... be.  Gotta be able to maintain your individuality, or else things will get really tired, really fast.