OMG sister drama again

sarack

"So what are you ashamed that i asked why I wasnt in your wedding, so you erase the comment I left...well erase this one too, we will not be attending your wedding!!!!!!!!"copied that straight from facebook.

jostina2010

My first reaction is to say good riddance and cancel the FB friendship... but that's probably a little harsh.I'm super sorry!!

sarack

AHH! I love my nieces though! She does this to me all the time. Hence why we aren't really friends.

rachipooh7

OMG! I am soooooooooo sorry!!! No one deserves to be treated that way! didn't she tell you before that she didn't even want to be in the wedding!!!! and then she just assumed she was in the wedding?! I don't understand some people!!! Im so sorry to hear this... something similar happened at my cousins wedding and it was her FI sister, step dad and mom who didn't end up coming to the wedding.. they got in a fight over something so dumb I can't even remember what it was about.. BUT her FI didn't care (he might of but didn't show it) he said: in the end its about me and jen (cousin) and no one else... its our day and i love her and im going to spend the rest of my life with her... so do what makes you happy.. i know it hurts your feelings but its your day and you are doing for yourself and your FI.. no one else... you need to make yourself happy and not worry about everyone else! maybe she is looking for an excuse to try and make it your fault? so she doesn't look like the bad person?? i dunno just a thought i can see one of my family members doing that to me... hope your day gets better!!

LauraLynneC

Yup. She's crazy.  what is it about weddings that brings out the super duper crazy in other people!?!?!  I have no advice - it's up to you how to react or not react.  If it were me, I would cut all ties.  I know there's a neice involved which makes it hard.  so the choice is yours - but at this point your sister is being abusive.

Archel

Wow. That is almost worse than my 18 year old sister. I say *almost* because she once filled up my entire wall with harsh comments.  But still, that is especially immature for your sister - I mean, she's a mother, she should be a little more responsible and rational than that. She'll probably come around, but honestly, I'm not sure if I'd want to deal with that on my wedding day...

KST_

Ouf.  First, I'm sorry. I'm cranky/pissy today and that just makes me want to open a can of whoop-asss.You probably shouldn't reply, but I always make the mistake of too much communication. I would send an inbox and just say, we discussed this last week. If you felt you needed to discuss it further, then you should have sent me a private inbox message or email. Your original posting on my wall would only serve as a method to cause antagonism and was an invitation to other people to chime in. It is no one else's business or place to give an unasked opinion on something that is MY personal decision. I'm sorry that you feel that you can't enjoy the wedding celebration without being in the wedding party. However, I'm glad most of our guests are just happy to be invited to share in our joy."But like I said, I usually cause worm cans to enlarge.

sarack

This is why I didn't ask her to be in my bp. she does this crap all the time. in .5 seconds she turns into crazy.

Tygirljojo

*hugs* I've decided your sister is a selfish AW. Who the hell would post that on someone's wall on FB? If you're going to ask that, you send a MESSAGE, not post on someone's wall. That's trying to start drama. Honestly, I say ignore her from here on. Defriend her and do NOT talk to her. Don't respond to any emails, calls, etc. Make her squirm by denying her the attention she's trying to get.

sjlarobadiere

hmmm...Sorry you had to deal with this. I'm not super close with my sis because she is almost 5 years older and was out of the house as soon as shoe could get out. But, that is why I asked her to be my maid of honor...also to not deal with the drama.I'm not saying add her. no no no, that sounds like what she wants to to do so she can just turn you down.I think I wouldn't delete it, but respond with something along the lines of..."I'm sorry you feel this way (insert her name here). But I spoke with you about this before. FI and I would like to have your family there to share our special day with us. Sorry this is how it ended up."You know? something where it puts it on her to decide if she wants to act like a kid. DId any of that make sense!?!? GOod luck!

melissa82

I would write, "And this is why you're not in the bridal party. You sound like a child in need of attention. I deleted your comment so you wouldn't look foolish on the Internet, but I guess you're hell-bent on looking like a nutjub who creates drama via Facebook anyway. Kudos."And then I would click the "Like" button. Bahahahah.That said, lol, Tygirl is right. Your sister would be good at pushing my buttons though--cause seriously my blood just started boiling FOR you.

Tygirljojo

Melissa - I've already got that covered. I'm starting shiit with her sis on her FB wall.

mgswart

I LOVE it!! This is hilarious!! Not your sister being a biatch of course. Just the fact that everyone is jumping in. I totally agree with the pp and agree that hearing this makes me angry for you.My FSIL, is somewhat like this and actually did me the favor of deleting me as her FB friend first. This way I don't feel bad when I don't talk to her or go to things she invites me to. I mean if I'm not good enough to be her FB friend, why be one in real life???

jeannigirl

Childish behavior, makes you want to say like one bride commented "This is excatly why you are not included" I would be tempted also to respond in the matter of Grow the H*** UP Will YA. We know that we have to combat childish behavior with Adult behavior. So has one poster stated this would also be how I would have voiced it. "I'm sorry you feel this way (insert her name here). But I spoke with you about this before. FI and I would like to have your family there to share our special day with us. Sorry this is how it ended up."

sarack

My blood was definately boiling when i first read it. I just know that she is going to act like a psycho so I try to avoid it. Melissa, that is exactly what I would like to say to her. Now you guys can see why I didn't put her in it in the first place. I'm thinking of still sending something addressed to my nieces to ask them to my flower girls.. but i think that would break their hearts. Although, they are old enough to know that I'm getting married and one of them already asked if she was a flower girl. I knew somehow my sister would end up doing this, saying she wasn't going to show up. Precisely the reason I didn't want her involved at all.

dmw_2010

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Hopefully, your sister will grow a brain sometime in the next 8 months and show up so that your nieces can be there.

d_smith79

I'm so, so sorry! I think your sister and my sister should hang out. They sound sooo similar! There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said. Just know that I can totally sympathize. Luckily you have all these great girls on here that support you.

jennuinne

Sorry! You know, she sounds like a drama queen and maybe if you don't give her the satisfication of a reaction she will get over it. I'd bet she still comes to the wedding (if she's still invited)...but, hey, I don't know her. I would ignore her when she acts like this. Hope she stops being crazy!

ahuette

Boo for bratty sisters. I praise you for being the bigger person and just deleting her comments. I would be rude and snotty right back. I'm sorry she's being mean and not coming (or allowing your nieces to come). Family show their true colors when big events arrise.

jennyann28

Everybody already said what I'd say, so I'll say this: What a ho-bag. Sorry she's doing that Sara.

sjlarobadiere

Sara- I know I don't know much about the details of this or the history as I am a newer gal over here but...Would you consider sucking it up and asking her to be a part of the wedding party so you can have your nieces there? If they are important to you then maybe you should do something along those lines. I know your sis is acting like a 2 year old but I feel you might have avoided this if you had just asked her to be a BM. That way you'd have your nieces at your wedding.I hope you can get things solved. SO sorry you have to deal with this crap!

SaraAnnAlvarado2010

Sorry Sara! This is extra stress and drama you don't need! You deserve a foot rub and some chocolate!

amylbell

drama rama!!! is this so now you to her begging desperatley for her to come to your wedding...when you do it to another girl it's pretty obvious...totally understand about your nieces...I'm sure she'll make nice again...then freak out again...seems to be the pattern....good luck!!!

amylbell

i'm helping my 5yo future stepson make a macaroni necklace but I can't let this one go!!!!   Like was mentioned several times this is EXACTLY why she's not in the wedding...better to not even come at all if this is what she'll pull...weddings make weird people weirder!...back to macaroni lol

sarack

SJ- I'm definately not willing to ask her to be in the wedding party because of this situation. i didn't want to ask her in the first place. She knew this. Now she is just taking my nieces away from me like she always does. She may come around, but if she doesn't, it's her loss. My nieces know that auntie loves them and they know that I want them there. They also know that their mom is bi-polar or something. I'm just seriously not going to talk to her until she talks to me. I'm still going to send my nieces the 'will you be my flowergirl' cards. This is exactly why I didn't ask her. I knew that someway she would freak out about something and I would be out a bm and flowergirls. And one of my bestfriends would be hurt that they weren't included. I just feel sorry for her. She needs help.

dbraulik

I'm glad you are still going to send the FG cards. Because then it will be all on your sis. Your neices will still know that you love them and want them there. it will be their mom that says/said no. Geesh. Can't wait to go over to FB to see what others wrote.