Honest Advise Needed... (kinda long)

busybruck

Hi ladies,
I need some help on how to deal with this situation. My MOH wants to go to Vegas for my bachelorette party. She feels like I need to go out and party. Her plan is to go from club to club the entire weekend. I don't have a problem with that, except that's not me; I'm more of a lounge type girl, I like to have some drinks relax and laugh and talk. I said I would go if that's really what she wants to do, BUT that presents a problem. The rest of my BP are my younger sisters, who are all under 21; and they would not be able to participate. My MOH says they just shouldn't come, but I think that's unfair. I would much rather do a spa weekend or something more laid back, then they could also participate.
My mom and stepmom brought up the topic with MOH and said they thought I would like something more laid back, Vegas seems like her personality, not mine. She got upset and said that she needed to get me out, and Vegas is what she wants to do.
What do I do? Should I just step in and say I don't want to go to Vegas (and leave out most of my BP), or should I just go with her plan and make the best of it without them.

kiyamurph

Girlfriend...YOU'RE the bride, NOT her!  Do exactly what you want to do and tell her that she needs to realize that the bachelorette party is about you and what you want, not her.  Plus, you'll be able to include your sisters.  While Vegas is a blast, if it's not you then put your foot down and tell her to plan something else.

BabyKaykes

You need to flat out tell her you don't want to go. What fun is a party you won't really enjoy?

MAGNUM 06

Hi Busy... We havent officially met... I've been off of the radar for a second...Buuutt... You gotta STEP UP on this one... The bachlorette party is for the BRIDE to be, NOT the MOH or the bridesmaids.... Simple as that... SHE has to defer to YOU!!!! 

Your MOH, although i'm sure very close to you is purposefully excluding the rest of your bridal party.... Why would you even suggest a Vegas trip when quite a few in the party are UNDER 21!!!  What's the point???  If she wants to go to Vegas, she can....or if you wanna do a girlfriend's weekend later... thats fine too... but for this specific event... You gotta speak up... If Vegas is not you... Dont do Vegas... If you'd prefer a spa day...or something more quiet... set it up and keep it movin'!!!  She either gonna participate or not... and the show will go on...

In closing.... Your wedding and pre-wedding events should be reflective of you and your groom... not the participants in the bridal party... Although, we appreciate all of their efforts... These events....big and small...speak for you!!!

That's my unsolicited commentary.... Hope I didnt offend you in any way. That was surely not my intention...

purplehoney

I agree very much with the PPs... Do what YOU want and is most comfortable with..how in the world u gonna have a BP without ALL or as many BM as you possibly can have?...(thats more of a retorical question Stick to your guns and do what u really want to do...no regrets... 

lsk40

I would step in because Im like you very laid back and I would hate going clubin all weekend but would love the spa 

busybruck

Thanks everyone. This is all what I was thinking; I've just been trying really hard not to be too controlling or a bridezilla (because I know I can be a little controlling sometimes). Just wanted to make sure I was right in feeling like I need to step in on this one.  And No Magnum 06 I was not offended my anything. It's what I was thinkin.

lil01

I agree with everyone else. This is YOUR bach party & she needs to take YOU into consideration. This isn't about her & I think that was crazy for her to get upset at your mom & stepmom about it. You definitely need to say something to her now before she gets more outta hand than she already is.

M1ssJ

agreed with pps

cherryblossom5

Busy , It is your day! I agree with the rest of the ladies it is your day! you do what you think is right and best. It's not your MOH day,It's yours!!!