Knottie Peeve

eagles347

Like a pet peeve, but knot-related.

Mine is when Knotties just tell other Knotties what to do. Sure...they probably don't really care if the person does what they say, but it still irks me when things are written as an order versus a suggestion...random, I know.

What about you? Anything about TK aggravate you a little?

aricherry

OMG. I so do that.  I wonder why?  Maybe its the mom in me?

eagles347

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_knottie-peeve?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:8ecab55a-dbfb-4c6e-8b64-6f54158b7ab6Post:3e8d18d7-a684-4d63-bef9-ba35a729af97">Re: Knottie Peeve</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG. I so do that.  I wonder why?  Maybe its the mom in me?
Posted by aricherry[/QUOTE]

LMBO...do you?!? I hadn't even noticed...so maybe it isn't as much of a peeve as I thought! That's too funny. I hope no one thinks this is a call-out thread...lol.

TNMurray

I have soooo many. I hate when knotties attack each other, call someone rude or tacky or  say that things are common knowledge when obviously they aren't because they are asking. There is a polite way to say everything just not on the knot.

wheatney22

Mine is similar to TNMurray. I don't like it when knotties attack. Not everyone thinks the same way and obviously, if someone is willing to go out on a limb, I think it is only fair to give them the benefit of the doubt and listen without judging. I live by the rule "if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it or find a really nice way to say it without hurting the other person's feelings."

smooth84

Like pp said, I hate when Knotties put eachother's ideas down or call them tacky. Just because it's something that you wouldn't do or is considered untraditional doesn't mean you should attack it, its just not for you..oooh that irks me!

cincy2011

A few things (no offense to anyone!):

1) Similar to the PPs, when knotties call things "tacky"

2) When knotties say they're selling something and then get wishy-washy about selling it, and then never contact you again when they said they would (personal story! ugh! No one on AAW.)

3) When knotties are not supportive of each other - we are all going through a stressful (somewhat) experience of living life plus planning a huge event.  We don't need additional stress, we need support!

4) When knotties post about a situation/story and never come back and tell us the resolution or what happened.  (I'm nosy like that - LOL)

summerbride11

LOL- nothing on here ever offends me. If someone writes a post headed by "Is This Tacky?" and I feel it's tacky- I'll be the first to say YES. We're all grown. If someone tells you to kick your bridemaid out of your wedding party, you shouldn't do it just because someone on the knot tells you to.  I've had ppl disagree with me before and I just try to hear thier side as well. That's what "opinions" are for.  I feel like everyone's story is so much more detailed than what is written in one post. So at the end of the day, I value everyone's opinion and make a decision based on what will work best in my life.

mahoganieyes

I love looking at YOUR WEDDING PICS, please come back and atleast post pics before you dissappear into married life. I've been on here a long time and some Knotties never did see a f/u post or pics. At one time we all shared on your anticipation of your ideas and weddings.

mayjaygirl21

I actually hate it when other knotties talk about people's relationships.  True enough, the real world is not "nice" and wearing your heart on your sleeve will get you nothing but hurt feelings, but sometimes, I just want to say DANG! Get out of these people's relationships!!! LOL

I've seen knotties post about a problem and then people say how she should get out of the relationship or it's not going to last...and still don't answer the knotties questions...TISK TISK!

Kita8242

A lot of the things yall are talking about, Ive only seen on the other boards. To be honest, thats the main reason reason why I only stick to AAW. Maybe I overlook it but I never see any of you ladies say anything rude or aggressive.

aricherry

wow all of these are good.  And I am glad you were not calling me out OP. LOL.  But yea I do hate when people attack eachother.  I have seen where they flat out call the bride. DUMB. really?  I just think we all are getting married and we all should support eachother.  The tacky thing doesn't bother me but I do hate when someone asks for help and they dont come back to update.  LOL I am super nosy too!

cuddleberry

definitely agree with the PP about the tacky comments. Uplift don't tear down!

prettymami2

You know what, maybe I am just oblivious to the comments because in this group I have not experienced any of that. I post here mostly and have yet to receive that, "oh hell naw" situation. I have definitely seen it in other groups that I have perused. Needless to say I didn't stay long. I enjoy this group and I wished there was a way that we could all meet up and do a meet n greet of some sort. Wishful thinking I know. I just think it would give us all a chance to share our thoughts and praises and wishful thinking etc... Kind of like a girls getaway but exclusive club for us type thing.