In planning this wedding we decided not to ask FI's dad for any money. We asked for his input on the wedding and he never got back in touch with us. He contacted FI yesterday to let him know that he's upset his name is not on the invitation. He originally told FI that he would try to contribute something in August. Good thing we didn't count on that because we'd still be waiting. Now he's saying he can help out at the end of Oct. or November. Are you serious...after the wedding when everything has been paid for? WTH. I just don't get it.
Now his uncle is saying he didn't receive his invitaiton. And he wants to add 15 people. Who does that????? FI explained to him that it's not in our budget. Luckily he offered to pay for the additional guests. So now I'm stuck calculating everything from additional linens, flowers, food, etc, to accommodate these people. Oh what joy.
side note: if people ask to be added and you can't accommodate, just say exactly that. Do not give people a reason why. If you say you don't have space, they'll say they'll stand; if you say no children, they'll say they'll pay for the child's plate; if you say it's not in your budget they'll say they won't eat. Luckily for us, FI's uncle offered to pay but we'll wait until we have the money in our hands before we add his guests to the list.
Our rsvp deadline is Thursday. We've allotted 1 week to track down stragglers and then the following week we meet with our venue to start working on the set up and selecting our options. The whole room is being transformed so we have to worry about bringing in chairs, tables, the stage, ceiling and wall drapings, and lighting. Alot of this is dependent on our final guest count. Needless to say, the next few weeks are going to be pretty hectic.
Then my cousin rsvps that she's coming and added a note talking about she's actually unsure if she'll be coming to the wedding and has no idea when she'll be able to book her flight but she wanted to be sure her seat was secured just incase. No boo boo, how about you wait until you've booked your ticket to rsvp yes. You've known about the wedding for over a year. If the deadline comes and you have not booked your ticket, I'm changing your rsvp to decline.
I've just had it with people and their foolishness. There are other people I thought would surely cause me grief but so far family has been a pain in the butt.
Ok I'm done, did not mean for this to be so long.