Oh No She Didnt!!!!

codom

 well 1 of my bms just informed me that she cannot be in the wedding b/c she cannot afford her dress.......this after telling me for WEEKS that she has a fitting and they have the dress off the rack....now i wouldnt normally be upset (she's also doing my hair and make up) but i JUST ordered bms gifts (which are personalized) so its like wtf do i do with yours?!??! i mean i would buy her a damn dress b/c she's 1 of my besties from childhood but i mean really!??!? smh....

miss2mrscj

Sorry you have to go through this. She should have been honest from the beginning. If she's one of your besties then buy the dress for her.  

desi2002

keeping it real is the best policy! you were mislead into thinking everything was all good and it really wasn't. that sucks. 
idk though... i think id still give it to her... its personalized AND she was who you chose to be  a part of your wedding.... do what feels best for you. GL

Carla1019

I've learned that when it comes to money some people are really ashamed and she might have thought she will have the money at the last minute.

I have a BM that I'm 99% sure I will have to buy her dress. She is a single mother with no help. She has not asked for help but I'm prepared to do it.

FI brother is just graduating college so we know he is broke too.

Try not to be upset she should have told you but I'm sure she felt bad.

bbrown185

I agree that she should have spoken up, but I agree with Carla that people get ashamed when it comes to money and needing help.  I talked to all of my girls individually before picking a dress and asked what they could afford to pay for a dress.  From there, the ones that could be financial okay and be in my wedding took care of their stuff on their own.  My sister, who is in college, I paid for her stuff and hapily did it.  If you have the money to help her out, just offer and be done with it because I doubt she will feel comfortable asking.  Good luck!!!!!!

lil01

I do agree she may have been ashamed, but with 2 months left, she should've said something. I have a friend that's a single mom, in grad school, and got laid off last year. I have a cousin who is a single mom of 3. Then I have my sis, who lives outta town & pays everything on her own. When I spoke with them individually, they all told me their budget & admitted that money was tight. From the dress to the shoes, I picked everything with them in mind.

With that being said, I think you should have a conversation with her, ask her if she still wants to be in the wedding, and is there anything you can assist her with so that she can still be a BM (if you can do so). She may have thought by now she would be able to afford it. But things do happen. Hope it works out!