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to boot or not to boot

Sooooo.....let me start by giving yall a little history on this so called friend.....I've known this girl for maybe 4 years. We met at this nursing home we both worked for. Anyway, we worked together and became pretty cool. She is one of those needy friends and I am always helping her out. So, when I told her about the proposal she didn't seem to be happy for me. At the time she was going through a rough break up so I excused it. After maybe a few months she calls me ans tells me she wants us to go out and start looking for dresses and getting ideas for the wedding. So at that point, I'm like cool. We met up and went looking. On our way home, she like"so we need to start looking for bridesmaid dresses too. And I want u to know I'm wearing something different cause u know the maid of honor has to stand out from everyone else" So right th there I'm thinking wtf....did she really just volunteer hersely to be my maid of honor. LOL..... So I didn't say anything at the time. I hadn't chose anybody yet for the bridal party and she wasnt even anyone I had thought about. I talked to fiance about it, we laughed if off. I just kept it cool. Ihad started to consider it on the strength that she "seemed" like she.was really interested and serious about everything. So FSIL was already considered to be my matron of honor. She had told me that she wanted to meet whoever my Maid of Honor was gone be so they could get to know each other and start making plans. I had told my friend. We set a date and everything. The night before I called my friend to remind her and to give her directions to FSIL house. The next day rolls around and she doesn't show up. I mean didn't call or anything. I didn't call her either because I felt I shouldn't have had to. So the next day rolls around which is Sunday evening and I get a call from my friend. She like" what happened yesterday" I'm like what do u mean? She.gone be like I thought we was supposed to go over his sister hoise. I said we did. Where were you. She gone have the nerve to say she thought I cancelled it because I didn't call her the day of. I'm like, I called you last night and reminded you. Basically she was on some BS. That was her first strike. So a couple weeks later she once again make plans to go out again. We don't have any of the same off days so I told her I would switch my days with another nurse so I could be off on her off day. I specifically asked her if she was sure she was gone keep the plans cause if not I would rather keep my regular days off. She.said yes. I went through high hell and water to switch my days and don't u know this heffa stood me up. Didn't call or answer her phone all day. Strike number 2. 3 strikes your out.......Lastly Ikea was having a sale on Champaign glasses. They were .99 for a pack of 6 glasses limit 2 packs per person. She was supposed to.go up there to get some. I called her the morning of to see if she was gone still be able to go. She told me she was going. Long story short, she ended up not going. Instead of calling me telling me she.couldn't make.it she just didn't go. I called her later on that day to see if she.made it, she.didn't even have the decency to answer the phone. That was December 30, had not heard from herbsimce until today. She come calling me this morning like everything is cool asking me about a appt I made for the girls on Saturday to.try on some dresses. She asked me what time.was the appt, I told her not to even bother coming. I just feel like if she will stand me up for simple stuff, I damn sure can't depend on her for something big. I feel like she is out of order on so many levels. First, u just volunteer yourself to be MOH, then u just keep standing me up like that's cool. And top of all this she was just getting on my nerves cause she wouldalways make everthing seem like it was about her. Do yall feel me or am I taking it too far? I have already given her the boot. Am I wrong?
Mrs. Mosley 2 be

Re: to boot or not to boot

  • Ole girl needs  to kick rocks!

  • nope. You not wrong. It almost sounds like she just wanna be a part of the "fun" stuff. like looking pretty in a dress. bump it. if you need help, she offered that help, and then is M.I.A when you need her, if you got someone else, go with that person. Some will say the only requirements of a bm or moh is getting a dress and showing up-but at the same time that does not fill the requirements of a friend.
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  • u definitely arent wrong. . i swear everybody always has one! kick rocks chick....aint nobody got time for dat!
  • Boo batch bye
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  • Girl your not wrong at all she's lucky you gave her 3 strikes she would've been out and cancelled on the first incident ....I'd be like GIRL GO SIT DOWN SOMEWHERE LOL...U DID RIGHT!

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_to-boot-or-not-to-boot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:991267eb-903b-4869-9e73-9968ac0f38b2Post:90a218fa-0ed4-4a14-8acd-53cf7b0ea0c7">Re: to boot or not to boot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Boo batch bye
    Posted by thedivav[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. with a swift steel toe boot kick</div>
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  • Goodbyyyyye trick!! Can't stand broads like that....you have ppl that invite themselves to your wedding but now you have broads that put themselves in your wedding party that MAY NOT even show up the day of.... Ugh
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  • Not at all! Your MOH is suppose to be there for you through High Waters and if she cant make no attempt then she just need to past on the position.
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  • Not wrong but you should have checked her when she first came out with the maid of honor stuff.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_to-boot-or-not-to-boot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:991267eb-903b-4869-9e73-9968ac0f38b2Post:6f2a0b87-ea96-4784-9e42-46e0020ae6f1">Re: to boot or not to boot</a>:
    [QUOTE]nope. You not wrong. <strong>It almost sounds like she just wanna be a part of the "fun" stuff. like looking pretty in a dress</strong>. bump it. if you need help, she offered that help, and then is M.I.A when you need her, if you got someone else, go with that person. Some will say the only requirements of a bm or moh is getting a dress and showing up-but at the same time that does not fill the requirements of a friend.
    Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

    true story.

    this ain't baseball.  strike 2.  thanks for playing, we've got some lovely parting gifts for you in the back.
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