I have been waiting to post at random times at all week, but I have been so tired with everything going on and being back in school full time is kicking my butt.
So the in-laws did not have the best reaction to my letter. They felt like I attacked them and apparently I was to become a taboo subject on their home and yada, yada. So then my FI and I were talking after their reaction and he was saying how he didn't know what he wanted to do and it was too much and so it got really tense and I broke up with him...the break-up lasted 8 minutes exactly. After the break-up I was a mess and in tears trying to call my mom who wouldn't answer her phone. I ended up calling my MOH/bestie and she freaked out and I told her I would call her back because I would try for my mom. While trying to reach my mom I got really concerned about my FI. I didn't want him to do anything stupid so I called him to check on him and seconds later we were laughing like nothing major had happend. In that 8 minutes he decided that he chooses me and will alway pick me no matter what his parents say.
The dust has settled with his parents a bit and they aren't so negative about everything that went down and he did tell them that he is picking me. I will wait for the dust to settle more and i will right them a follow up letter and I will mail it to them so my FI isn't in the middle. I want to let them know that I am aware that my letter was a bit blunt and very foward, but it is 100% my opinion and the opinion of a person on the outside who is looking inside and I meant it to be constructive and not destructive. I want them to know I have very strong values when it comes to family and it is my goal to have a strong family relationship with them if they are willing. I want to have an open and honest relationship and if they have something to say to me that may be negative I want them to say it to my face personally and I will do the same for them.
Now my FI decided he is picking me which means he has decided that next summer he will move to the US to be with me. Around the time of the wedding he will relocate here. We are about to start the Green Card process so he can legally work in the US. I'm beyond excited. I've been looking at apartments so we can figure out an average rent and bills budget and I am beyond anything I just can't wait.
The next exciting thing that happend is we are going to elope. We were already gong to legally marry in Vegas, but that was going to be in July just days before the wedding, but in order to speed up the Green Card process and so stick it to the in-laws we are getting legally married in November. My FI has never celebrated Thanksgiving because he is Belgian so he will be arriving here the week before and that Sunday we will go to Vegas and legally marry on Monday. He just reserved our hotel room today and I will get our plane tickets this coming week. I'm going to be a Mrs. sooner than I thought. We get back from Vegas and we will celebrate our legal marriage and Thanksgiving with my family.
EDIT: I just called and made the appointment with the Clark County Office of Civil Ceremonies, on Nov. 22 we will get married legally.
"Ever Thine, Ever Mine, Ever Ours"
Janae & Olivier
