Ladies, Do you ever

hatroopes

fudge prices to your FI about how much items/vendors cost for the wedding? I find myself doing that a lot lately because it seems we get into an argument about the cost of every thing for this wedding. I admit, I was shocked to find out how much weddings cost when I started speaking to vendors, but I have since adjusted..my FI on the other hand is such a cheapskate about everything! We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves and our parents are helping put a little, but he is now suggesting we have friends take our wedding pictures for us, instead of paying for professional pics. That was where I had to draw the line and I told him our photog is charging half of what he actually is. I felt a little bad, but whatever lol. What do y'all think?

lil01

Yes...yes..and yes! I don't necessarily lie, but what I do is find a vendor that is more expensive & compare the prices. I'll say, " See...this person wanted this amount, but look what I found that is cheaper!" He doesn't research with me, so he's like, "oh..ok." Hey...its been working so far!

whome_notyou

It's soooo tempting. I find myself thinking he won't know how much it costs or I'll just tell him it's less but then I start feeling guilty. I say to myself I'd be pissed if he did that to me lol.

I agree that presenting the more expensive option first is a good idea. I have to be careful though because he will research stuff online himself.

asabb

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[QUOTE]Yes...yes..and yes! I don't necessarily lie, but what I do is find a vendor that is more expensive & compare the prices. I'll say, " See...this person wanted this amount, but look what I found that is cheaper!" He doesn't research with me, so he's like, "oh..ok." Hey...its been working so far!
Posted by lil01[/QUOTE]

LOL ditto!!

vfriday

I just encountered this dilema about an hour ago.  The photographer I want to hire has a huge price diffeence between 4 and 6 hours and FI wants to go with four hours because it is cheaper and he hates taking pictures.  I think we will be trying to force way too much into the four hour time block.  Once he saw the photographer's work, he did give me the okay to go with what I felt was right.  I have to remember that he is visual and that if I can convice him that I really want something he usually agrees.  I haven't had to fudge too much yet, but I think it is coming.

YasJas2011

I tried that but FH is way too involved as far as the prices because we are paying for everything! :-(

prettymami2

Nope I don't lie because I have to send his azz everything like we are doing the work together. That's the part that pisses me off. He is a dollar and cents guy but doesn't do anywork towards reserach.

banks69

I don't lie about the costs of things.  What I did in the beginning is determined what aspects of the wedding he was truly interested in and that's the $$ info he received.  So, the ceremony, reception, pics, and food was his interests so he knows how much those items costs.  Everything else - as long as people are paid he can care less.

On another note: one of the reasons I have an issue with lying or fudging the truth about costs, etc. regarding the wedding is because I think that if I can lie about something as small (in the true scope of things) as costs of items for the wedding, what else will I be tempted to lie to him about in the future????  Something to think about.

IMHO