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Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS...

Hey Ladies,

This morning I got a text from a bridesmaid saying that she ordered the wrong color dress. Both the store and the manufacturer told her no refunds. The girls are wearing midnight/navy blue while my MOH is wearing quarry(or silver). The BM ordered Barcelona red which is bright red. What do I do? I don't want to hurt her feelings but the wedding is less that 2 months away now. What would you do? I'm not even asking why or how she did it...I don't want to worry about what I can't change. My thoughts are to let her get ready with the bridal party, have her flowers walk/be seated as an honored guest and take separate pictures with me (for sake of the color scheme) is this wrong? I want to do the most God-honoring thing possible, but my flesh may be interferring... 

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  • WOW!!! This is not good. Yea obviously she cannot be in the wedding unless she has some way of getting the correct dress or getting it professionally dyed then I think your suggestion is very nice b/c in my head she would probably not be getting flowers or anything but thats my flesh too lol.
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  • And if you only have 2 BMs then maybe she could find a different dress in that color that is cheap? The only reason I say if there are only 2 is b/c if there is a bunch of them then she would be a special BM, maybe like a MOH...I mean I'm sure she doesnt want to purchase another dress but ultimately its her fault and if she wants to be in the wedding then she has to do what she has to!
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  • WOW... there is no way they can do a store credit or something.. and pay for a rush order??
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  • she would be sol not in my wedding with the wrong color
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  • Sorry to hear this. Maybe ask her what she is willing to do first...maybe find a used dress like the one that she was suppose to order?
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    [QUOTE]WOW!!! This is not good. Yea obviously she cannot be in the wedding unless she has some way of getting the correct dress or getting it professionally dyed then <strong>I think your suggestion is very nice b/c in my head she would probably not be getting flowers or anything but thats my flesh too lol.</strong>
    Posted by ladycane015[/QUOTE]

    <div>LOL.</div><div>
    </div><div>I guess I can see if she can get it dyed. That's an option I hadn't thought about at all.</div>
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    [QUOTE]And if you only have 2 BMs then maybe she could find a different dress in that color that is cheap? The only reason I say if there are only 2 is b/c <strong>if there is a bunch of them then she would be a special BM, maybe like a MOH</strong>...I mean I'm sure she doesnt want to purchase another dress but ultimately its her fault and if she wants to be in the wedding then she has to do what she has to!
    Posted by ladycane015[/QUOTE]

    <div>THIS. I have 6 BMs and a JR-BM. So she would totally soak up the spotlight in a red dress. She's telling me they told her the material cannot be dyed...I'll see about getting a cheaper dress in the right color as well.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : THIS. I have 6 BMs and a JR-BM. So she would totally soak up the spotlight in a red dress. She's telling me they told her the material cannot be dyed...<strong>I'll see about getting a cheaper dress in the right color as well.
    </strong>Posted by LadyNami[/QUOTE]

    would the store take it and give her store credit to get another one?
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    [QUOTE]WOW... there is no way they can do a store credit or something.. and pay for a rush order??
    Posted by nursing2u[/QUOTE]

    <div>She's avoiding that question...still waiting on the answer. I'm sure she doesn't want to pay more though. SMH</div>
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    [QUOTE]she would be sol not in my wedding with the wrong color
    Posted by thedivav[/QUOTE]

    <div>A BOLD color...RED! </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : would the store take it and give her store credit to get another one?
    Posted by nursing2u[/QUOTE]

    <div>I think I'm going to have to call this weekend and see. She is an out of town BM so I don't know all the store policy details. She isn't answering that question...dag nabbit text messages! </div>
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    [QUOTE]Sorry to hear this. Maybe ask her what she is willing to do first...maybe find a used dress like the one that she was suppose to order?
    Posted by rowenac82[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks Rowena, that maybe the way to go. Currently texting back and forth...so not getting work done.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : I think I'm going to have to call this weekend and see. She is an out of town BM so I don't know all the store policy details. <strong>She isn't answering that question...dag nabbit text messages!</strong> 
    Posted by LadyNami[/QUOTE]

    I know the feeling.. I have an out of town MOH...

    That could really make the difference.. BUT.. I would think it should be asked asap.. because rush is rush.. you know.... Hey she made the mistake..sooooo if she wants to be in the wedding (after her mistake).. then she needs to correct the problem.. and BOLD RED.. IS A PROBLEM..LOL
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : would the store take it and give her store credit to get another one?
    Posted by nursing2u[/QUOTE]

    + she's avoiding answering the question
    + BOLD red
    = "mistake" -  girl you sure?
  • meant to say:

    THIS. I have 6 BMs and a JR-BM. So she would totally soak up the spotlight in a red dress. She's telling me they told her the material cannot be dyed...I'll see about getting a cheaper dress in the right color as well.

    + she's avoiding answering the question
    + BOLD red
    = "mistake" -  girl you sure?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : I know the feeling.. I have an out of town MOH... That could really make the difference.. BUT.. I would think it should be asked asap.. because rush is rush.. you know.... Hey she made the mistake..sooooo if she wants to be in the wedding (after her mistake).. then she needs to correct the problem.. and BOLD RED.. IS A PROBLEM..LOL
    Posted by nursing2u[/QUOTE]

    <div>You sound just like FI. :o) So, with that, I believe God is speaking to me through ya'll. I made the mistake of asking FI "What Would Jesus Do?"...after he told me it wasn't my problem he reminded me that Jesus turned those away who were not appropriately dressed to the wedding (feast). That blew my mind! So, I guess this really isn't my issue after all. Thanks nursing2u!</div>
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  • Did they order dresses from a boutique? If that is the case, the boutique should be at fault because the bridesmaids are not supposed to tell which color or type of dress they wear, it should be in system. For mine, all they had to do was go there and get fitted. I had already given the boutique names and what style and color each girl is supposed to have so all they needed to do was pay and get fitted. That way if the color came back wrong it would be on boutique.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : + she's avoiding answering the question + BOLD red = "mistake" -  girl you sure?
    Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sultry! I hoped you'd weigh in on this! So, those 2 things make me believe that it wasn't a mistake. BUT I just didn't want to stress about it or think about why she'd want to sabotage my wedding. I feel like she is playing on my usual 'niceness' and thought that I would say it's ok, as usual. However, I'm drawing the line here because this is my wedding day...I think I'm still in shock, but everyone is saying she can't be in it, so it really seems this decision will be easier than I thought!</div>
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    [QUOTE]meant to say: THIS. I have 6 BMs and a JR-BM. So she would totally soak up the spotlight in a red dress. She's telling me they told her the material cannot be dyed...I'll see about getting a cheaper dress in the right color as well. + she's avoiding answering the question + BOLD red = "mistake" -  girl you sure?
    Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

    <div>I understand. It doesn't seem logical.</div>
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    [QUOTE]Did they order dresses from a boutique? If that is the case, the boutique should be at fault because the bridesmaids are not supposed to tell which color or type of dress they wear, it should be in system. For mine, all they had to do was go there and get fitted. I had already given the boutique names and what style and color each girl is supposed to have so all they needed to do was pay and get fitted. That way if the color came back wrong it would be on boutique.
    Posted by gmg75241[/QUOTE]

    <div>Hi gmg75241,</div><div>
    </div><div>She had to go through a different store to get the dress. It's a Dessy dress, so the dress is always special order wherever you go. They tell you to be sure of the size, color and style when you order because they give no refunds/exchanges. </div><div>
    </div><div>Who really knows what's going on?</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : Sultry! I hoped you'd weigh in on this! So, those 2 things make me believe that it wasn't a mistake. BUT I just didn't want to stress about it or think about why she'd want to sabotage my wedding. I feel like she is playing on my usual 'niceness' and thought that I would say it's ok, as usual. However, I'm drawing the line here because this is my wedding day...I think I'm still in shock, but everyone is saying she can't be in it, so it really seems this decision will be easier than I thought!
    Posted by LadyNami[/QUOTE]

    no girl for real I was benefitting of the doubting with you UNTIL you said this chere:  soak up the spotlight.    a conspiracy theorist I am not and I want to believe that if she's close enough to you to be in your wedding party, she would never....period end of sentence.  BUT and however spending a significant sum of money....on a dress I can only wear once....making sure to get it in my size...........but in the wrong color.....and that wrong color is a standout?   chile, cheese my Christmas list woulda just gotten shorter.  Hmmph. God knows your heart.  
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : no girl for real I was benefitting of the doubting with you UNTIL you said this chere:  soak up the spotlight.    a conspiracy theorist I am not and I want to believe that if she's close enough to you to be in your wedding party, she would never....period end of sentence.  BUT and however spending a significant sum of money....on a dress I can only wear once....making sure to get it in my size...........but in the wrong color.....and that wrong color is a standout?   <strong>chile, cheese my Christmas list woulda just gotten shorter.  Hmmph. God knows your heart</strong>.  
    Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

    you are making my day!!!! i love it<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : <strong>You sound just like FI. :o) So, with that, I believe God is speaking to me through ya'l</strong>l. I made the mistake of asking FI "What Would Jesus Do?"...after he told me it wasn't my problem he reminded me that Jesus turned those away who were not appropriately dressed to the wedding (feast). That blew my mind! So, I guess this really isn't my issue after all. Thanks nursing2u!
    Posted by LadyNami[/QUOTE]

    There is soo much to stress over... THIS!!! is not one of them.. you did your part.. and she is a grown woman spending HER OWN MONEY... I know I wouldve made sure it was right.. but I cant say what she was thinking..or what happened..

    You just go and enjoy your day..
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Ordered the WRONG DRESS... : Hi gmg75241, She had to go through a different store to get the dress. It's a Dessy dress, so the dress is always special order wherever you go. They tell you to be sure of the size, color and style when you order because they give no refunds/exchanges.  Who really knows what's going on?
    Posted by LadyNami[/QUOTE]

    oh WELL THEN SHE SHOULD SHOULD HAVE DOUBLE CHECKED THAT. She is a grown woman so you are not responsible for ordering her a new one. She wants to be in it then she will correct it. Otherwise she just has to soak up the money lost because you did what you were supposed to.
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  • I guess I'm the minority because this is why i ordered the dresses for them. Some people really do stuff inadvertently and its the simplest but biggest mistake. Is red one of your colors at all?

    I think what you originally planned to do is perfect! or make her a hostess
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