WTF?? excuse my language

luckyinloveaz

Why is it that all these engagements are just going down hill. It makes me sick to see all us happy ladies being let down in one way or another. It seems to be all the men that are calling them off?

2 weeks ago I announced my FI had called off the wedding. We are doing ok, still together, we love one another still just the same, but we as a couple need to work on trust/jealousy issues that he has.. Im willing to help him get thru this, considering Im not like those women he messed with back in the day.

There are good people in the world and relationships do take work, its not a breeze for everyone. We all come from diff up bringings, family, money, housing etc. Just remain focused and love as much as you can! Prayer as you all know helps tremendously.

It's hard to see all these posts of relationships/weddings having problems but it is life, and just know all happens for a reason!

I just re read this and see that I was all over the place. Its just all to sad:(

 

hunee=pye

It truly is sad. You crossed my mind this morning I am  glad you are doing well and are willing to work it out with him.
We all have issues and it seems so easy just to walk away. Fi has been on my nerves something serious this last month and the first thought I have is I can't do this and the things he does are just petty but I am dedicated to him, our relationship and our family therefore im going to give it all I have to make it work.

PhillyBride123

I agree, FI and I go through our issues too but so far so good and we have remained committed to one another. And I can definitely say counseling and self help couple books have helped a whole lot.
luckyinloveaz-I am glad things are working out for you. I hope to see more smilely faces from you soon  

csuperstar02

your language is fine! I hope you guys can continue to work on your issues for the better.

It is pretty bad. We have seemed to have quite a few in the last few weeks. I just hope everyone can work on their relationships and stay prayerful.

We have been going to the Marriage Ministry classes at our church that are a part of our requirement, but they have been really good. It's basically the Sunday School class for married and to-be-wed couples. The recent topic has been communication and it was perfect-timing for us (a.k.a. me, haha) to join the class.

Here's a link to the site if anyone is interested/wants to check them out. They post each week's lesson.

mserika1

csuperstar, I clicked the link and i see the lesson titles but nothing else.  Is the lesson on the site in detail?

luckyinloveaz

@csuperstar- can I get the website too, and thanks for sharing:)

eagles347

I'm glad that you and FI didn't run...I hope that things work out as you would like them to, but I know that in the end whatever the outcome is, it will be for your good.

My FI and I have definitely been tested. I tried to change him for a long time, but it took an act of God for him to make the changes necessary to get to the point that we are actually genuinely committed and happy. I have realized though that I can't even get too caught up in being happy just as I hope none of you get too caught up in sadness. I learned the other day that "happiness depends on happenings and our joy is dependent on Jesus"...

I say all that to say, every time I see a broken-engagement post it hits home because I know it was almost me. However, none of us are fool-proof and we have to realize that  we can't lose ourselves. Men don't complete us...they enhance us.

csuperstar02

Hey ladies.

If you click on the link, it takes you to the homepage. Down the left side - mouse over '10 Marriage Ministry Lessons and then the lessons will come up for January through August.

Let me know if y'all still can't see them!

missrekaeagle

It's breaking my heart to see all of these breakups. I don't come on TK as much as I used to, but when i do come on there's at least 1 new breakup story. When I logged on today, I saw 2. I don't know what in the world is going on, but I will keep all of us lifted in prayer.

mrsblakemore

I hate to be the devils advocate but I'd rather break up with my FI while were engaged, than married. I see it as a blessing in disguise. But I know that doesn't change the painfulness of the break-up. I think every situation is different, sometimes we may choose the wrong person and in another instance it might be timing, and with another couple someone could just have cold-feet. It's still sad, people should be able to make decisions and stick with them but that's human nature. I just pray the God's will be done in everyone's life.

Eagles is right, happiness is a matter of situation. Men and women need to get over being happy all the time and work on having the joy of the Lord and being committed enough to sacrifice. *stepping off the soapbox*