Invitation Wording

MrsSmith2Be02

Can you all proof this for me?  I tried to go by the rules from Emily Post "The Etiquette Goddess" in regards to a Formal Wedding taking place in a House of Worship. I didn't see anything about deceased parents, but its my invitation and I'm putting my daddy in there. LOL

The Late Mr. Morgan Wayne Scott

and Ms. Wynelle Washington Scott

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Morgan Nichole Scott

to

Mr. Quincy Alexander Smith

Saturday, the Seventeenth of November

Two Thousand Twelve

at half after five o’clock

First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ

Atlanta, Georgia

rowenac82

Is there any reason why FI has a title i.e. Mr. and you don't? Also I think it would be at half after five o'clock in the afternoon. But might be a preference thing. 

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]Is there any reason why FI has a title i.e. Mr. and you don't? Also I think it would be at half after five o'clock in the afternoon. But might be a preference thing. 
Posted by rowenac82[/QUOTE]

I just went by the Emily post examples.

None of the daughter of.... had a title before her name and the "afternoon / morning / evening" isn't necessary.

keyaira04

Great job! I would lowercase "late". 

rowenac82

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording : I just went by the Emily post examples. None of the daughter of.... had a title before her name and the "afternoon / morning / evening" isn't necessary.
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Also, are you not including the address of the church?</div><div>
</div><div>And I am guessing you did not want to include FI's parents names?</div>

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording : Also, are you not including the address of the church? And I am guessing you did not want to include FI's parents names?
Posted by rowenac82[/QUOTE]

I am on the fence about having the address on the formal invitation or leaving it to the details card.

In regards to the names, since my parents are hosting, nope their names aren't going on there. My Matron of Honor said that she went through the same thing when she got married and her mom told the MOG that the people who are paying names go on the invite....and that was that.

rowenac82

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation Wording : I am on the fence about having the address on the formal invitation or leaving it to the details card. In regards to the names, since my parents are hosting, nope their names aren't going on there. My Matron of Honor said that she went through the same thing when she got married and her mom told the MOG that the people who are paying names go on the invite....and that was that.
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

<div>Well if you have a details card that will suffice. </div><div>
</div><div>As for FI's parents names, I remember that you and FMIL don't exactly get along, so I say DO YOU :-)</div>

MrsSmith2Be02

I went ahead and added the street address to the church just incase someone missplaces the details card.

Thanks ladies!

MrsJenrette

I really like the wording and the way you incorporated your late father (that was very sweet!).

It does look a bit odd with the "Mr." in front of your FI's name. for me I think it's more of a flow issue.. but if you like it then keep it!. I've also seen on some formal invites.. just the brides first and middle name.. while the groom had his full name.

I would change the "half after five" to "half past five".. but again.. my preferences.. the flow thing.
Other than that.. very elegant. And I agree.. the address doesn't have to be on the invite as long as it's somewhere in the package itself.

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]I really like the wording and the way you incorporated your late father (that was very sweet!). It does look a bit odd with the "Mr." in front of your FI's name. for me I think it's more of a flow issue.. but if you like it then keep it!. I've also seen on some formal invites.. just the brides first and middle name.. while the groom had his full name. I would change the "half after five" to "half past five".. but again.. my preferences.. the flow thing. Other than that.. very elegant. And I agree.. the address doesn't have to be on the invite as long as it's somewhere in the package itself.
Posted by MrsJenrette[/QUOTE]

Yea, it looks wierd to me also.....plus I am thinking about dropping my last name on their as well.....still thinking. My designer is probably going to strangle me. LOL

Anyway, in thinking and this may just be my over analytical self, but technically because of the whole giving away of the daughter and you don't give away a man, so maybe that is why the titles and stuff?? Not sure, but I'm sure if I put Miss Morgan Nichole, it just look real debutante teeny bopperish to me.

MrsSmith2Be02

This is how it turned out:

The Late Mr. Morgan Wayne Scott

and Ms. Wynelle Washington Scott

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Morgan Nichole

to

Mr. Quincy Alexander Smith

Saturday, the Seventeenth of November

two thousand twelve

at half after five o’clock

First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ

105 Courtland Street, Northeast

Atlanta, Georgia

MrsJenrette

Very Nice!..

and LOL @ the designer strangulation... unforturnately I did get to that point.. but then again the designer was my mom.. so we were ready to strangle each other...lol

MrsSmith2Be02

Thanks! How is baby??? Time has FLOWN BY!

Yea, she laughed at me via email and said we can make changes to the proofs too, and I said I know but it makes more sense to have the wording correct now, than later. Easier to just have the initial proof good and move on to the next.

MrsJenrette

Chile who you tellin?!.. I just hit 7 months (last sat).. I'm too ready for him to make his arrival.. this being pregnant in extreme heat during the entire summer thing is SO not for me!..lol

I promise if (and that's a BIG if) I ever do this again.. we will be timing conception, cause I refuse to go thru another summer being pregnant.. it just ain't happening!

mejai1

I hate to say this, but it seems odd to me to have the deceased parent requesting the honor of anyone's presence.  I actually found this in researching the Emily Post etiquette from the internet (although this seems to be from the daughter of Emily Post)

I like the first option...

It is from this link:

http://www.theamericanwedding.com/blog/2008/everyday-etiquette-invitation-wording-honoring-a-deceased-parent/ 

Several years ago, the exact situation came up with a customer in my stationery store. I did some research and found that "Emily Post’s Etiquette" by Peggy Post offered interesting wording for such situations. Since then, I have always suggested this as an option for remembering a deceased parent. Here is an example:

Mary Catherine Williams

daughter of Mrs. Christopher Williams and the late Mr. Williams

and

Thomas Scott Carson

son of Mr. and Mrs. Scott Carson

request the honour of your presence

…

It is improper to have your mother and late father issuing an invitation (ie. Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Williams). Therefore, the above wording is necessary.

Otherwise, you could use the following wording and have the minister remember your father during the wedding service and honor him in your program.

Mrs. Christopher Williams

requests the honour of your presence

at the marriage of her daughter

Mary Catherine

to

…

In my opinion, either is a very good solution. You just need to choose the one that makes you feel good. Have a wonderful wedding.

---------------------------

I hope that helps... Both FI and I have deceased parents, so we're hosting the wedding ourselves, but we are adding a special mention on our ceremony programs...

MrsSmith2Be02

Yea my mom said it was wierd for his name to be first and I totally understand the deceased parent because technically they can't invite you anywhere - which was my own thing with etiquette, but then again, etiquette rules say your invites have to be black and white.

OK, so I just went and pulled out an invitation from a friend of mine who's dad had just passed before she sent her invites out and the wording was like you suggested....I just don't like the way it looks on the paper, primarily because of the way I envision the design of the invitation. Our names are going to be very bold, large, scripted and a different color than the rest of the wording, so I think (from typing it in MS Word) if they are separated so much, it looks a bit wierd. Just my preference though.

MrsSmith2Be02

OK - So i did some more searching and found a wording that is still the same format that I want and proper etiquette wise....because all things must be done "decently and in order" LOL:
Here goes...

Ms. Wynelle Washington Scott in behalf of

the late Mr. Morgan Wayne Scott, Esq.

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Morgan Nichole

to

Quincy Alexander Smith

Saturday, the Seventeenth of November

two thousand twelve

at half after five o’clock

First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ

105 Courtland Street, Northeast

Atlanta, Georgia