Tipping Question

tcjames

I'm one of those people that ususally over tips at the restaurant, especially if all 6 of use go out. I'm having real issues with this tipping for a wedding service. Ex...Bartender is being paid $25 hr..Why in the world would I give them more money? I mean I don't tip nurses, doctors, accountants, mcdonalds cashiers etc because they get an hourly wage..so why tip anyone else who gets an hourly wage? FYI We chose to use independent "vendors" because some vendors were tacking on 30% per person after a fee of $1500 and better, that adds up really quickly...So tell me what you think and how are you handling tipping...

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morning.  our caterer's contract includes a 20% gratuity.  Since they provide all the staff I feel that they've accommodated for it.   FI might decide the bartender needs his own tip, but my thing is all the staff is working as hard as each other, the waitstaff probably harder because they're going back and forth, so I'd be against singling out the bartender, or if he gets extra, then everybody does, but not by much because nearly $2K of the bill is gratuity.   Our other *vendors*  florist, DJ and limo driver are our best friends and so what we give them won't be typical as they're gifting us their services.    The photographer/videographer are the only team I'm really thinking about.  The other part too is, how hard do you go in when you've paid the caterer to feed some of the people you're tipping?  you know.  If I fed and liquored you up, paid for your service, I kinda feel like we're good.

madimyluv

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_tipping-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:a3a769fa-d18f-46a6-87f0-6c4bc509001cPost:a14c9b7b-7955-4fa3-a940-dbc7d12148c9">Re: Tipping Question</a>:
[QUOTE]morning.  our caterer's contract includes a 20% gratuity.  Since they provide all the staff I feel that they've accommodated for it.   FI might decide the bartender needs his own tip, but my thing is all the staff is working as hard as each other, the waitstaff probably harder because they're going back and forth, so I'd be against singling out the bartender, or if he gets extra, then everybody does, but not by much because nearly $2K of the bill is gratuity.   Our other *vendors*  florist, DJ and limo driver are our best friends and so what we give them won't be typical as they're gifting us their services.    The photographer/videographer are the only team I'm really thinking about.  The other part too is, how hard do you go in when you've paid the caterer to feed some of the people you're tipping?  you know.  If I fed and liquored you up, paid for your service, I kinda feel like we're good.
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I agree!

This is a hard one.  Im curious to read what others have to say about this topic.

MissusD1116

I'm curious or other comments too, because I'm already paying up the yin yang!,,

staten2012

I'm getting married in Vegas and as such tips are EXPECTED and usually DEMANDED. So I really have no option but to tip even though I'm having inclusive packages. The way I got around that was I asked my Dad to be responsible for tipping the driver, photographer, etc. That way the tipping gets covered but its not an expense I have to exactly "calculate" for because it does add up.
My parents aren't contributing to the wedding but FI and I are paying for the majority of it. By asking my Dad to tip it gives him something to contibute but also I know he is a fair tipper and can be quite generous when need be.