O...M...G....Tacky on a whole new level

2010Bride2be

So I saw this posted on the Etiquette board who got it from the Budget board....I had to share...this is just rudeness taken to a whole new level!

The bride had asked myself and my daughter to attend her wedding. Her invite said "please join us for dinner and dancing." I dont drink alcohol and I asked the bride's mom if I needed to bring money for the sodas for myself and my daughter she said "nope her dad and I are paying for everything." So the waiter comes over and asks which entree * there was a choice of two* we'd like so my daughter and I order. Well he brings me a bill with our dinner 50.00 for two ppl to eat . He informs me "I have to be paid before I can serve your meal " I say politely "there must be a mistake I was under the impression  that this was paid for ." He replies to me" No everyone seems to think that but the bride and groom told me that the guest count ran over and they can only afford to feed the wedding party" So I tell him "Im sorry but I brought only ten dollars with me so please send that back to the kitchen and we'll leave. " I took the brides mom aside privately and talked to her and she said that yes they were making everyone pay for their meals because they couldn't afford it. I made up an excuse about not feeilng well to the couple because I didnt want to upset my friend and her groom. She said ok,and hugged me. But when we were leaving we noticed a lot of others doing the same and apprantly somone did say something to the bride about the real reason. The next day I get an email saying" I appricaite you trying to spare my feelings but it was rude of you to leave my party because you couldn't have a free meal dont bother to contact me again" that was 4 years ago and she still doesn't speak to me. I never have felt more embarrased in my entire life. I also felt bad I upset my friend because had I known I had to pay for my meal I would have declined the invite or went to the wedding only. I hope this helps and that I wasn't too rude to you. If you can't afford to feed your guests and I totally get that espically in this ecomnomy then just serve cake and punch and enjoy your wedding and reception with no guilt.
Posted by devilishangel61401

tcage001

WOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW I can't take this. Who does that?????? This is some bull shiggty on so many levels. First how do you try to slide in the fact that guest have to pay for the own meal. Second how does the bride get mad beause ppl leave because of this fact. So not only did the friend buy a gift and now she has to come of of 50 bucks that she didn't plan on spending. I don't think the girl left just because she had to pay but I know I personally never have cash on me and I mean never so I would have had to leave as well to get cash or just leave and not come back. If it was a close friend I would have came back but I still would have said something to her later.

I also understand the friend for not wanting to say something to upset the brde but I just can't believe the bride told her not to contact her again, they must have not been too close of friends. The nerve of some people. If you were over budget you should have just scaled back and not expected for your vendor to come up with a bill like you're at a restaurant and not a wedding reception. SMH that is all!!

PB-Bride2010

You gotta be kiddin' me!!

flasweetheart

WoW! My jaw dropped open reading that how you going to invite me to come to dinner and dancing for your wedding and not mention that I have to pay for my own food.  That's just wrong.

Fabbiegirl

WOW!

Ky925

This can't be real!!  How rude is that??  They should have atleast given the heads up before hand.

Carla1019

I saw on the budget board that a girl asked how much can she ask guests to pay for their meal. She said she has been to other weddings and this is acceptable. I would be the first to walk out if I was expected to pay.

lil01

WHAT?!!! Come on!!!

japonica334

Thats a trip!

kwillia139

All I could do is shake my head! You really want don't want me to contact you again bc I refused to pay for a meal that was suppose to be free. I don't think so!!

Gift928

i REFUSE to believe this!

desi2002

wow. i dont even have words for that. are you serious??

Kedeisha8

unacceptable if i know before hand then i may say depending on how close we are i will go but nah im not going n have to pay

prettymami2

Oh sorry she can't be serious. You don't invite someone to a reception and then send them a bill before they can eat. That is wayyyyy tacky. Especialy when more than likely people buy you gifts. That's way crazyy!!!

hatroopes

I bet you they expect to get gifts too and probably have a registry set up and everything!!! **SMH** Do people understand that it's not necessary to have a wedding...especially when you can't afford to???? 

tychandler

wrong on so many levels

Soon2BSand

WOW. I'm speechless... and that aint easy to do.

djscat

Ummm all I can say was this was not some of "us".  I wish I would try to invite folks to a wedding and then not tell them let alone make them pay for thier meal.  LOL OH HELL NAW!!!  There would be a riot going on up in that reception.  bahahaha  This has to be the craziest thing I have ever heard!

bbrown185

Wow.... how can she possibly even be mad at her for that.  You were running your mouth telling everyone the bill is paid and then get mad that they expect that they don't have to pay?  Really???? Wow.  Well alright ha.

kiyamurph

I just...I have no words 

ellone400

I have no words!

msapril0730

That's is crazy! My mouth dropped when I read it! I really hope its a made up story...

PrettyCW5

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_omgtacky-whole-new-level?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:a528205d-250c-4eb8-a8d6-f31c0c9a8e45Post:18622c5a-94a1-42ee-9e21-683793d65fc8">Re: O...M...G....Tacky on a whole new level</a>:
[QUOTE]Ummm all I can say was this was not some of "us".  I wish I would try to invite folks to a wedding and then not tell them let alone make them pay for thier meal.  LOL OH HELL NAW!!!  There would be a riot going on up in that reception.  bahahaha  This has to be the craziest thing I have ever heard!
Posted by djscat[/QUOTE]

LOL!! ALL OF THIS!!!!!

LSAS

Wow

eagles347

*speechless*

M1ssJ

ridiculous!

Dancerppf

The part that really gets me is the friend made an excuse about being ill. Her friend took the high road to spare her feelings and she still had the nerve to come out like that. I would've let her have it.

simbidi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_omgtacky-whole-new-level?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:a528205d-250c-4eb8-a8d6-f31c0c9a8e45Post:596de7da-b6ef-48e5-8335-542d2735e391">Re: O...M...G....Tacky on a whole new level</a>:
[QUOTE]I saw on the budget board that a girl asked how much can she ask guests to pay for their meal. She said she has been to other weddings and this is acceptable. I would be the first to walk out if I was expected to pay.
Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

<div>Dang, that's like selling tickets.... and they probably want a gift too!</div>

MrsAllenToBe1123

o wooooww! Where they do that at?!? smh loss for words

island07b2b

That has got to be some made up drama because there is no way someone could be that RUDE not that STUPID to think people would stay around to deal with that HAM. 

Now if this is real, to the bride:
1.  You lied on the invitation. Trifling.
2.  You are sneaky.  People came with gift in hand.  Some probably gave you money in their cards.   AND you want them to pay for their own meal without letting them know? $50???!!  More trifling.
3.  You have the audacity to put a guilt trip on your guests for leaving your wedding because you tried to starve them.  They were hungry so they left.  T-R-I-F-L-I-N-G.

BluIvory82

THIS cannot and should not be real life...EVER!!
OMG, I cant...my head hurts now, SMH