I think I learned a lesson (kinda long)

egammo3

So, I posted on my months board a while ago about feeling like I wanted to just ask one of my BM's to step down because we had become disconnected lately.
Here's for some background...
This particular BM and I go WAY back to Pre-K. We've been to the same schools and church all of our lives, but after Hurricane Katrina we kind of loss contact. Anyway, after so many trips and running into one another we reconnected and tried to build our friendship again.... just so, that after 5 years I asked her to stand next to me in my wedding. Well she is in school and now is in a serious relationship on top of that she works, which is fine I completely understood that her time was being divided, but there were several occassions where I invited her to hang out but got  so many rain checks not to mention we really weren't talking as much as we used to... so I felt like maybe we were growing apart.
Anyhow, I spoke with a mutual friend (who is also a BM) and she told me to wait it out and give myself a deadline to talk to her, so I gave myself the deadline of July 14, 2011 (1 year mark for my wedding day)

Lo and behold, on yesterday out of the blue (3 days before my deadline)  I received a txt from my BM letting me know that school is almost over and she wants to hang out when its done next week. Not only that but she txt'd today asking me for the bridal party expenses. I was so happy and just breathed a sigh of relief. FI was just as happy as I was because he knew I had been stressing out about this.  I am so glad I decided to be patient and let go of the situation. If I would've handled it based on impulse who knows what the outcome would have been. Every situation will work itself out in the end.

happe2gether

Glad to hear it is working itself out. 

pinkcottoncandy7

Patience is a virtue, so wise. Happy for you!

wallacje

That's awesome, looks like all with work out okay!!

egammo3

Yes! Now if only the rest of the planning would go this way! LOL Of course not... especially not with my difficult FI. LOL

MarryingmyKnight

Great lesson for us all.

Fabbiegirl

Glad to hear it worked out.  Ya know, women are different about their friendships rather than men.  Men can say a guy is their best friend, but they hardly speak.  We don't do that.  I have a friend that lives in Atlanta with me.  She is going through a divorce, raising two kids, working, and trying to find her way back to herself.  We always pledge that we are going to hang out once or twice a month, but we don't.  When I was single, I was working, dating, etc.  Then I met my FI and put a lot of time into him.  People can say we are growing apart, but we keep each other in our hearts even though we don't connect on a regular basis.  She went wedding dress shopping with me.  I made sure to make it to her kids birthday parties.  I cherish what I have with her and don't stress because we cannot be as close as my other friends are. 

Anyway, just wanted to share.  Glad things worked out for your friend.  One less thing to stress over.

egammo3

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_think-learned-lesson?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:ae2446ce-f339-4058-98f3-956c854cb155Post:95ee58f3-1d10-47b6-b6ff-78909e841064">Re: I think I learned a lesson (kinda long)</a>:
[QUOTE]Glad to hear it worked out.  Ya know, women are different about their friendships rather than men.  Men can say a guy is their best friend, but they hardly speak.  We don't do that.  I have a friend that lives in Atlanta with me.  She is going through a divorce, raising two kids, working, and trying to find her way back to herself.  We always pledge that we are going to hang out once or twice a month, but we don't.  When I was single, I was working, dating, etc.  Then I met my FI and put a lot of time into him.  People can say we are growing apart, but we keep each other in our hearts even though we don't connect on a regular basis.  She went wedding dress shopping with me.  I made sure to make it to her kids birthday parties.  I cherish what I have with her and don't stress because we cannot be as close as my other friends are.  Anyway, just wanted to share.  Glad things worked out for your friend.  One less thing to stress over.
Posted by Fabbiegirl[/QUOTE]

Thanks for sharing.... I really appreciate it.

ejagers

I'm happy to hear everythin is working out for you!