MOH... VENT!!

FutureMzHayden

So my MOH and I have been friends since we were 11 or 12 years old.  Lost contact and found each other on FB!  Alright so my wedding is approaching FAST and I'm in the process of getting things done but she HASN'T help one bit.  Mind you she lives down the street from us.  

So the other BM asked me if we were all staying in a hotel room the night before the wedding.  I was like yeah, sounds good.  I tell her and she immediately goes into how she's not gonna be able to do that because she won't have anyone to feed her cats.  OKAY FINE!!

Last week she tells me that SATURDAY (9th) she was gonna come over so we can get some detail stuff done.  FI and I had worked on stuff all day when it dawned on me that I hadn't heard from her.  I text her asking when she was gonna come over and her reply was.... "I'm in Cali!!"  Uhhhhh say what.  Okay so when was you gonna tell me to cancel for Saturday and who is uh feeding the cats!!

20pearls16

See this is the ISH I am talking about. What is wrong with these people! Frikkin haters. And the cats?! I would check her butt on that one. Why as black women we can't celebrate the happy times with each other? Always got be hattin on the DL! Damn!!!!! Sorry I feel your pain.

footballwife77

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[QUOTE]So my MOH and I have been friends since we were 11 or 12 years old.  Lost contact and found each other on FB!  Alright so my wedding is approaching FAST and I'm in the process of getting things done but she HASN'T help one bit.  Mind you she lives down the street from us.   So the other BM asked me if we were all staying in a hotel room the night before the wedding.  I was like yeah, sounds good.  I tell her and she immediately goes into how <strong><u>she's not gonna be able to do that because she won't have anyone to feed her cats.</u></strong>  OKAY FINE!! Last week she tells me that SATURDAY (9th) she was gonna come over so we can get some detail stuff done.  FI and I had worked on stuff all day when it dawned on me that I hadn't heard from her.  I text her asking when she was gonna come over and her reply was.... "I'm in Cali!!"  Uhhhhh say what.  Okay so when was you gonna tell me to cancel for Saturday and who is uh feeding the cats!!
Posted by FutureMzHayden[/QUOTE]

OMG! that's the exact reason i'm bringing my cat to 20pearls wedding! LMAO!

Seriously though. Is she always that flakey? and was the trip last minute or what?

20pearls16

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[QUOTE]In Response to MOH... VENT!! : OMG! that's the exact reason i'm bringing my cat to 20pearls wedding! LMAO! 
Posted by footballwife77[/QUOTE]

<div>The devil is a LIAR LMAO!!!</div>

staten2012

...this is why I have only ONE bridesmaid at my wedding...and I picked the most responsible one...not my best friend.
she (your MOH) doesn't want the responsibility. I would try to downsize her to a BM and put someone else in her place.  She might not know the full responsibility that goes with being the MOH.

Seriously, though with the cats...MAJOR side-eye action on deck...lol (and this is from the mouth of a cat-owner!!! them cats will be fine for a day or so on thier own)....

Carla1019

BOO MOH, just BOOOOO!

20pearls16

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[QUOTE]...this is why I have only ONE bridesmaid at my wedding.....
Posted by staten2012[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't have ANY for this same reason.</div>

CaseynMike

Ok first off...don't they have automatic cat feeders?????? I think so...
Next....I am losing brain cells reading about everyone and their haters...sheesh
Third it sucks that people that we consider our friends we can't even be happy for their friends when something significant happens in other peopl'e lives....damn crab in a bucket mentality....ugh
I think she sounds kind of iffy to me...I dont know her and dont want to judge her but I said the same thing you said when she said she was in Cali...who is feeiding the damn cat now?

Girl good luck with that one and I hope that she either steps up or you downgrade her....

MissusD1116

Umm yeah, this is a hot mess right here! She may need to be booted. You deserve someone who can share I your happiness and not try to tear it down,.

Strv2perfection

I have only one also my old sister! She is the only person I trust. I would ask her what's up also. Don't say your gonna do something then flake on me! Cats barely eat leave out some dry food and water Garfield will be ok.

keyaira04

Im sorry this is happening. I really do get the non-sense BM bring. Its crazy to me. I never did this to my brides, so why do others not see the HONOR of the title. Crazy.

Yeah, the cat situation is for the birds. 

MrsBoss2012

Why do we get people in our bridal party like this?! You could have kindly declined if you were not interested in the role! I'm sorry your MOH is acting like this. When my other girls were being non responsive and not assisting my MOH I sent them a link I found on TK actually that had a list of duties and expectations for bridesmaids, MOH, mother of bride and I sent that as an AHEM please get it together. Yeah i know their only real obligation is to buy their dress and show up. Well obviously we picked them for a reason. Maybe she doesn't know how important her job is.

thedivav

mumbling

eloping sounds so good lol 

smh i swear... i had a cat i would leave her the whole weekend she was more than ok.... 

Icis127

To MrsBoss2012: may I have that link/website that list the duties for moh, bm, etc. thanks...if you still have it.

MrsBoss2012

In Response to Re:MOH... VENT!!:[QUOTE]To MrsBoss2012: may I have that link/website that list the duties for moh, bm, etc. thanks...if you still have it. Posted by Icis127[/QUOTE] Here it is posting from my phone so I hope it works. On the side column you can select bridesmaids, MOH, mothers, groomsmen. 

<a href="http://theknot.ninemsn.com.au/wedding-planning/bridal-party/maids-mothers/bridesmaids/bridesmaids-duties-in-detail" rel="nofollow">http://theknot.ninemsn.com.au/wedding-planning/bridal-party/maids-mothers/bridesmaids/bridesmaids-duties-in-detail</a>


And this is how I phrased it in the email... "Hi ladies! I came across this article going over bridesmaids responsibilities see link below and thought I would share it with you. With a little more than 3 months left I just wanted to give you a summary of some ways in which you will be needed before and on September 2nd!"

MrsBoss2012

Ps I got the idea from other ladies on the board. Not sure who specifically I think maybe Miss J mentioned it before and some others. Definitely don't want to take credit for this idea!

mejai1

Cats? Damn...

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