“What Your Father Didn’t Tell You
and Your Mother May Not Have Known!”
I. Introduction
Today’s message focuses on how a woman can bless both her relationship and herself by knowing more about the man whom she is dating, may begin to date or to whom she is married. The insights about men listed below were submitted by a small group of recently surveyed men.
The goal of today’s message is to increase the intel of men among women which could, in turn, improve communication between men and women which could, in turn, enhance the quality of relationships, especially marriages. After all, history suggests as marriages go, so goes the quality of society.
By the way, as previously shared in marriage mathematics, one plus one equals one. Similarly, in mathematical marriage, one-half plus one-half equals any fraction less than one.
Wives needs to know:
II. Husbands want to be your friend. husband wants the same level of attentive and honest support that you give your best female friend. Proverbs 17:17
II. Husbands want your approval. Let him know you believe in his talents and you support him as a person. Hebrews 10:24
IV. Husbands want to be complimented often… but do not over-do it. Colossians 4:6
V. Husbands want to be heard, not rushed through his part of the conversation or have “eyes rolling” while listening to him. James 1:19
VI. Husbands want a more consistent and engaged wife in the bedroom. I Corinthians 7:3-5
VII. Husbands want to be honored and celebrated appropriately. Ephesians 5:33
VIII. Husbands want their wives to support their “hangout / alone time” without being interrogated upon their return. Proverbs 31:10-12
IX. Husbands want their wives to communicate without slamming doors and drawers, throwing stuff and making reconfigured facial expressions. Ephesians 4:31
X. Husbands want their wives to know that “no” means “no” to that particular request. do not assume it means “no” to you as a person, or “I don’t love you” or “I am against you.” Matthew 5:37
XI. At the end of the day, the only person you really need is Jesus!
A. Whether you are single or married, Jesus is The Man!
B. Obtain and maintain a level of God- and self-confidence so you are content with yourself, in Jesus’ Name. Philippians 4:11
C. Once you are content, then you choose to be yoked, not need to be yoked. II Corinthians 13:9
D. Upon choosing to be yoked, submission becomes “a part of the territory.” (Ephesians 5:24) By the way, if you, as a woman, cannot submit to the man you are dating, then he is not the one for you or now is not the time for you – or both. So, keep dating (only) or keep looking…
E. Similarly, if you, as a man, are not prepared “to love your wife-to-be to death,” then she is not the one for you, now is not the time for you – or both. (Ephesians 5:25) So, keep dating (only) or keep looking…
F. Whether you are yoked or not, you can be – and should be – complete, of good comfort and consecrated. II Corinthians 13:11
G. At the end of the day, the only person you really NEED is Jesus. He is your ultimate Supply, Supplier and Source!
When you look to your spouse when you should be looking to your Savior, you set up yourself and your marriage for “fracturization,” if not failure.
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