Children and Weddings?!?!?

tirathemrs

How many ladies feel children and weddings dont mix...i mean (MISSTIRA LOVES THE KIDS) but when you pay 30 or more for a plate of food u dont want nobody to leave a full plate of food on the table...and im sure most kids arent gonna eat all that fancy stuff most venues serv...How is this gonna work for u and ur budget?

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tira, Ms. B loves the kids too, end of sentence.  If I were gettting married at disneyland, and said leave the kids, feel free to karatekick me in my spleen but cost notwithstanding, when I came up (and i'll freely admit to being a dinosaur) it was simply understood that a night time party was for grown folks.  The first wedding was one in which I was a teenaged bridesmaid.  furtha, I don't feel a way about it, if you're offended that your children weren't invited, send us your tearful regrets, we'll holla.

island07b2b

The only children I plan to have at the wedding are The Dude's two granddaughters (my step grands) who are part of the wedding party.  I  LOVE children too but I don't think the type of wedding I am planning makes sense for them.  The food, the music, the time of day will be too much for children in my opinion especially those under 12.  However, if by some chance I do change my mind, I will have a room and sitter set up with games and activities for them and I will provide children meals as well. 

tirathemrs

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[QUOTE]tira, Ms. B loves the kids too, end of sentence.  If I were gettting married at disneyland, and said leave the kids, feel free to karatekick me in my spleen but cost notwithstanding, when I came up (and i'll freely admit to being a dinosaur) it was simply understood that a night time party was for grown folks.  The first wedding was one in which I was a teenaged bridesmaid.  furtha, I don't feel a way about it, if you're offended that your children weren't invited, send us your tearful regrets, we'll holla.
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>LOL LOL @ sultryzulu u r right about that...im jsut really concerned that ppl will want to bring "the clan" to the wedding and i truly dont want to offend anyone...my thing is the only kids i want there are the 1-2 kids that will be in the wedding aside from that im like leave yo damn babies at home lol</div><div>

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kittybutton

Im not having any except mine and The Mistahs. I love kids and i wont enjoy myself cause Im looking out for every body else child. Thats just me, I was in my friends wedding last year and this year and I just became the babysitter because ppl were not watching their kids. So I said Nope just ours. My family and his have some bad ass kids so NO NO NO lol

tirathemrs

My Fi has a friend who is getting married next year and i swear the bride has almost every child she knws in the wedding im like (thinking to my self) this is gonna be a party for the kids...ill sit back and watch this foolishness....i surely dont need a bunch of bay bay's kids running around tearing down the house lol lol lol

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Children and Weddings?!?!? :   LOL LOL @ sultryzulu u r right about that...im jsut really concerned that ppl will want to bring "the clan" to the wedding and i truly dont want to offend anyone...my thing is the only kids i want there are the 1-2 kids that will be in the wedding aside from that im like leave yo damn babies at home lol
Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]

judging by all the rsvp posts, you WILL offend somebody, you just need to decide whether you gone get good and comfortable with it, or accommodate the complainers.   personally I don't know hear no middle man "oh we didn't know" type mess so I'm gonna be doing the rsvp phone calls myself.    What makes me really pissy is the pretense that folks don't know.  They KNOW, but nothing beats a failure but a try right, so they gone try you.

Yolie1098

I'm ok with kids at the wedding, unless it is a black tie style wedding.  I would have a separate area for them and different food of course. I went to my cousins wedding and there were alot of kids there, and it was sooooo cute, when they all took to the floor for a certain song and my 3 yr old asked a girl to dance and pulled her on the dance floor.  We were all shocked, but it was truly unique and special.  On the flip side, if you are inviting guest with kids from out of state, I do recommend having a separate room w/ babysitter available or do not be offended it they do not come.

keyaira04

Children not in the WP are not allowed at the wedding. Our venue does not include children 5 and under in the head count, which is cool. We are doing buffet style, so their parent will create portions for them. My mom and I already talked about having the cater slice kid size ieces of cake so they don't mess over it. 

tirathemrs

Well i can assure you somebody may be getting the evil eye that night especially since im not doing buffet and the fact that after dealing with my 2 year old i may not want to be bothered lol

msbdumas

Like everyone else...I love the kids BUT...my family has a lot of little kids and I just don't have the money to accomadate them all ! I have already been doing word of mouth..NO KIDS at the reception ! And because we are having all in one they mine as well not even bring them to the ceremony unless they don't mind leavng and coming back ! When my cousin got married she had sooooo MANY kids there the adults couldn't enjoy themselves and I just can't have that !!!

CaseynMike

The only children that will be at my wedding are the ones in our wedding party so there will really be no children at the reception or the wedding. My family has a slew of kids and I can't pay for all of them to be in the building!

kthowell

Only my kid and the future hubby kids will be there......

keysmit

FI and I are having an adult reception only. We love the kids too.. Love them.. We have 4 flower girls who are more than welcomed, but other than them, no more, no if ands or butts about it.. We know that we will come across some people who may be mad, etc. but Ole well.. we don't have children so we don't see the necessity for anyone else's to be there.. When I send out my invites, I am taking texting off my phone and I will refrain from answering people phone calls to avoid the extra drama of ppl calling and trying to compromise.. So serious. LOL..

soontobehasrouni

its cool if they are IN the wedding or at the ceremony...i personally dont think a reception is a proper place for children. AT ALL. theres too much drinking and adult time. the food isnt really child friendly. plus- i cant STAND kids running all over the place and tripping over them. but thats just me.

soontobehasrouni

and ifsomeone if offended they cant bring their kid...too damn bad! your child is not equal to an adult in my eyes so i wont treat them as such. if you are ok with bringing your child to an adult function, go for it....somewhere else. I personally dont want to watch my launguage cuz your bas ass kids might hear.

and if peoples kids werent so damn bad in the first place, we wouldnt need to have the discussion...now would we? :-)

M1ssJ

Oh this topic goes round and round. I set up a cereal bar in a separate room. Leave them there or dont bring them at all or whatever. They not eating 2 bites of a pancake on my dime

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[QUOTE]Only my kid and the future hubby kids will be there......
Posted by kthowell[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I agree on me and my FI kids will be there we have 6 total but my FI has a 4 yr old which will not be there but the other 5 will be there cuz 3 are teenagers and 2 are pre-teens so worries and just by us having boys I want them to see the positive in love and marriage is beautiful </div>

tirathemrs

Well ladies all i can say is it souldnt be more than 5 maybe 6 kids there total...other than that somebody will ge leaving there made at me lol....

O on a sn @ essienakya33 u have my date lol...(well my old date) i pushed it out til 2014...and have u decided on a place in miami...these places are crazy expensive lol...

20pearls16

We both agreed no kids except our own and his niece. We also got the caterer to do 1/2 price for the kids under 10. The 20, 12, 6,7, and 12 year old will all be 10 that day!

MrsJenrette

We had kids at our wedding.. from both sides of the family.. I can say that there was about 9 kids at our reception and 7 at the ceremony (including those under 5 years and those in the wedding party).. and we didn't have ONE issue with ANY of them. They were all very well behaved, and those that were above 12 years of age ate at the buffet.. those under 12 had special chicken finger and fries plates (at half the price/person.. so about $15/plate). They sat with thier parents, and got up to dance (without knocking anyone over) when the dance floor was opened.

No bumps, bruises, scraps, crying, fighting, kicking.. it was wonderful!

I would say that it depends on your preference.. but you also have the KNOW the kids that are on the list (and I'm not just talking about family wise), and how they would behave at your celebration. If you know that the majority of the kids that you would invite would cut up.. then don't invite ANY with the exception of those in the wedding party, or each other children...

CreoleBride30

Uh yea....no children to the ceremony or reception for us. The only kids allowed are the ones that are in the wedding party. Our ceremony and reception is on a lake...we do not want to be responsible for any thing bad happening to the kids if their parents decide to not watch them. Also, on our website we added this to our FAQ page in regards to kids and "other people". This way, there is no confusion. 

Q. Are children included in the invitation?
A. The couple realizes many parents would like to bring their children to the wedding ceremony and reception. However, please understand the ceremony and reception will be an Adults Only event.  Only children who are directly involved in the wedding party are expected to attend. 

Q. May I bring someone that is not included on the invitation? 
A. No. Your invitation is addressed to those who are invited. Please adhere to the invitation as it is addressed. 

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[QUOTE]How many ladies feel children and weddings dont mix...i mean (MISSTIRA LOVES THE KIDS) but when you pay 30 or more for a plate of food u dont want nobody to leave a full plate of food on the table...and im sure most kids arent gonna eat all that fancy stuff most venues serv...How is this gonna work for u and ur budget?
Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]

lol. I agree. We are planning to have the children at ceremony and then afterwards when the adults go the reception, the children will go to a conference room with pizza, drinks and tv and stay until parents picks them up. We are paying $42 a person and children would not eat all the food anyway lol