rant: thank you cards..

sarack

So i've been to a few weddings, bridal showers, and baby showers where I still haven't received thank you cards.

A couple of them I am the one that was asked to write down the gifts and I still didn't get a thank you. I don't understand why people even write the gifts down..

Also, my bms got together and talked about giving gifts for the wedding. I want my friends to be there for me and I don't expect presents. That said, I would never go anywhere without bringing a gift in one way or another. One of the girls whose wedding I was in a while ago said "well she didn't give me a gift so i won't get her one".

It really irritated me because I spent HOURS doing DIY projects to personalize her wedding and used all of my money on it. She also promised to pay for alterations for our dresses as our gift and she backed out of that.. and then said she'd pay for our hair and backed out of that. I helped her book all of her vendors and was there for her through the whole process. i really felt like it was my wedding.. FI and I stayed up until about 2am the day before her wedding spray painting and finishing stuff.. and all of the things that I did were what everyone commented on. I also carried her dress the day of and held her bouquet.. her moh didn't do sh!t. anyway.. i just never received a thankyou card and i really think i should have received one.. I felt like all the time and money that i put into everything was a gift... but i guess not.

The reason this came up was because I posted something on FB that I couldn't make decisions. She posted this: "

Right before my wedding I felt the same way. You just have to pick something and commit to it. Otherwise it gets toooo overwhelming. OR...have an amazing BM who steps in and makes the decisions for you so that your head doesn't explode. I had one of those " I feel like finally like I got a thank you.. but I'm still hurt that she said what she said...

rant over. thanks for reading.

carrieoz_76

I hate it when people aren't gracious.  I keep track in my mind of the folks who send thank you cards, and those who don't (looking at you, family member X who hasn't sent TY cards for the wedding presents you got LAST SUMMER).  I actually appreciate it so much when people are gracious that I've tried to do better at it myself recently.

Anyways, all you can do once you get over being understandably irritated with the ungrateful folks in your life is truly appreciate the gracious ones, and try to be that way yourself.  

After you get in a well-deserved Oh No You Didn't!  

Tygirljojo

I still say what I mentioned earlier: write her a letter.  But of course, with all that's coming up in a few months, I would wait to do that.  I have a feeling she won't be much different after the wedding so your letter that you want to write right now will still apply in several months and you'll likely have a few things you'll want to add to it.

amandasw

I know how you feel, I think thank you cards are NOT optional - although we've been to two weddings in the past 2 years where we never got one.  I did make sure to send one though when they came to ours

cupcakepirate

I know right where you are coming from. I saw that post on your FB and was like 'wtf?'. It's really surprising anymore how many people DONT write out thank yous. U get the whole bucking tradition in other areas, but that is just plain rude. Of all the weddings MIL and I have attended over the past few years, we are still waiting to get TYs from every. single. one. and I've accepted that I never will. (Which is more disappointeing because one of the couples just bought a house and I bought them a $50 gift card to Home Depot, and they never even told me they got it until I asked them if it got lost in the mail. )

sarack

ugh, i agree, thank cards arent optional. i give people thank you cards for coming to my bday party.. to a bar. i dunno.. it just is annoying. i guess i should stop holding my breath but it is RUDE!