I need prayer...

dmk90716

Hi everyone,

I'm rather new to the boards, but I feel like if anyone can imagine how I feel, it'll be some of you. Confession: I'm a perfectionist and a control freak. MAJOR control freak. I hate to feel like I don't have it together ALL THE TIME. Everyone sees me as this composed individual but on the inside, I feel like I'm falling apart.

I'm getting married in March. Along with a wedding in March, I have to move at the beginning of March in order to be with my FI (LDR right now). So, I'm planning a wedding, planning a move, my son is a senior in high school and he's graduating early and stressing out because for the first time in almost 2 decades, I'm quitting a job and am going to depend on my husband for my financial security. I'm looking around right now and my house is a mess. I can't even concentrate on Thanksgiving dinner (even though I only have desserts and mac and cheese to make this time) because my head is swirling with things to do. I'm a mess. I know I'm not the only one that is dealing with this, so HOW DO Y'ALL DO IT???

leatba

Praying for you. What helps me is to know that I am not super woman and I do need help. Admitting I need help helps me to relinquish some of the control. Hth

nursing2u

FIRST.... we take a deep breathe......and try to realize you have a lot going on and u r not perfect... It will all come together...... Prayer works!!!!

keyaira04

Praying....

aquari0216

I'm praying for u and the funny thing is is that u are STILL gonna find a way too it all....thats how us women do....

[Deleted User]

hi danielle {wavey}

there's an old african saying - you know the best way to eat an elephant?  one bite at a time.   I don't know if it's african or not i'm just talking.  point is, everything, even making mac n' cheese when there's laundry to do looks like it's insurmountable if you think of having to do all of it all at once but, i promise it's much more palatable if you take one scenario at a time.    lemme put it another way - estimates say that it costs about $150,000 to raise a child to age 18 (not including college) and you know what?  it MIGHT, but not in a lump sum, it happens one box of diapers and one package of cookies at a time.  Now turn around and look at your son. lol.  

Breathe it out, talk it out, pray it out, hug it out.  all of those.   better out than in. 

p.s. it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks of you, it matters what you think of you.

p.p.s.  wedding, mom of the graduate, cooking despite the mess <------ for all these things:  congratulations!!! 

footballwife77

I agree with pp's. BREATHE and take baby steps. Once the kid goes off, pack a box at a time of that stuff. I myself am completely SCARED of change. But i'm confident that you'll be able to embrace it and enjoy your new life. Congrats.