Seating chart--need help

pinkcottoncandy7

I had the idea (which I am now starting to regret) of allowing certain special friends of my parents to dine at thier tables. It kinda like an old people VIP. Question: my FMIL has a couple coming down who has a daughter in her teens the daughter is bringing a friend which is fine.

Here's where the drama ensues. She insist that that couple sit at her table but doesn't want their daughter or friend. This feels rude to me. Am I wrong? Shouldn't  immediate families and their underage guest sit together?

happe2gether

I think typically families are seated together but I can see that they might want the table to be for "grown folks" only.  If you have other "kids" in their age range it might not be a bad thing.  I know in our family the teenagers typically all sit together.  But if you don't then IDK.  I mean the up side is that the daughter is bringing along a friend so she isn't by herself.  I know this is how my 13 y/o would feel because she has a friend with her and she probably wouldn't want to be with the adults anyway. JM2C.  HTH!  

pinkcottoncandy7

Yeah there really won't be many teenagers. Especially teenagers they know because they are coming from my FI's town and only about 20 other people from his town are coming anyway. 

We are doing open seating aside from family of bride and groom. So its like tossing these 2 teens into a sea of strangers.

PrettyCW5

Is it possible to sit them at a nearby table next to FMIL's table or near a table that has people from your FI's town? It may be possible that they know someone or know of someone at the table. However, she has her friend so she won't be too alone.

shesheduke

Most kids don't like to sit with their parents they rather sit with people their own age. So even if the other teens are people they don't know kids make friends easily so have an old people VIP and a young people VIP and all will be right with the world

pinkcottoncandy7

Thanks, I guess I just have a idea that families should sit together. When I went to weddings as a teen I wasn't regulated to a kiddie table I dined with the adults in my party. Maybe I'm old school but I just can't get down with the idea.

If I have to create several tables then that defeats the whole idea sooo I think I will just scrap it. Its too close to the wedding to be grappling with this.

mrswac58

I will be having a nmber of teenage and under children at our wedding. My thoughts so far were to put them at another table near the parents but with people their own age. I figured it would be fun for them. I was even thnking about putting an icebreaker/game on the table for some of them. Like i spy or something. Just because I know how the kids are in my fam. They would rather sit with another kid they don't know than their parents.