Last Name Change

TysWife2Be

What are you going to do with your last name once you get married?

As for me, like I mentioned in a previous post, I just met my biological father 4 years ago and the communication is almost non existant.

So its a no brainer for me, I will be DROPPING his last name and changing it to FI last name.

christinapayne

I want to hyphenate, but FI aint havin it lol

KSTURGIS

Its is the one thing that fi is adamant about. So what baby wants baby gets. lol

TysWife2Be

I joked around with FI about keeping my last name...he was NOT gong for it...

Then I said, what about hyphenating it...still a no go!

LOL!

I was only joking with him but he is pretty serious about me changing my last name to his...

cincy2011

It was not even up for discussion with my FI, lol.  I WILL BE taking his name.  

But that was perfect for me, b/c I also don't have a close relationship with my father so I have no emotional/sentimental connection to my last name.  In fact, I think I'll feel better once it's gone!  

sdstephens2010

My father has always been around, but we're not close AT ALL...so I'm definitely changing it.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

Christinapayne fi and my fi must be cousins because I wanted to hyphenate and he was not having it. LOL

YasJas2011

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[QUOTE]I want to hyphenate, but FI aint havin it lol
Posted by christinapayne[/QUOTE]

Same here for me!

kristi0618

Well I really don't know what I plan to do about my Last name. I already have two last names being that my mom and dad weren't married. So I have my dads then my moms. My dad died when I was really young so I think I want to keep his name as a reminder that he is always with me. So Hyphenated I guess. Maybe I should ask FI what he thinks. We really hadn't discussed it. I don't think he really cares as long as we are Married.

MrClintonsFirstLady09

Like a lot of the other ladies post, FI is not having the hyphenated thing or me keeping my name. It will definitely have to change.

rodeo417

I had this talk with FI and he is strongly pushing for me to take his last name. So he gets his wish! It doesn't really bother me at all.

DanielleB80

I guess most husbands want their wives to have their last names. I'm dropping my middle name and will add his last name (my middle name is UGHHH, so I will gladly drop that!!!)  My maiden name will become my middle name and I'll take his last name.
Whewww, thats sounds like alot of work!  lol

mandikaykay

Dropping middle name, using maiden name in the middle and picking up new name.

adgenya

I'm hyphenating my last name with his. It rolls off the tongue easily and I love my last name. 

ishpish

HAA, they all seem to be the same.  will be keeping my maiden name (just pushing it to the middle) and taking his last name

OFF

I'm taking his last name.  I thought I wanted to keep my maiden but FI really wants me to take his name and then he pointed out how can I be so attached to my last name when I don't even speak to the man who gave it to me.  Good point! 

ladylum

Well I am keeping my maiden name and attaching his last name to it. I have a son who doesn't have his biological father's last name, he has mine so when FI adopts him, he will be Smith Lackey. Our unborn son will also be Smith Lackey and so will I.

sassyredd2010

it was never a question for me. i always felt that when you marry someone you should take their last name. some people say its crazy cuz i feel so strongly about it but, i will take his last name and he is going to adopt my 4 yr old twin boys and they will have his name too.

jwilk002

I am going to change mine to just having four names.
My first and middle and last and his last. I need to keep my last name due to professional concerns (i.e. published scientific papers with my last name) and will use my first name, maiden name as middle name and his last name, spelled out when doing business.
My daughter also has my maiden name as her last name, so I will always want to have her last name in my name as well. Since I will legally have all four names, I will just use his in everything else. It's a good compromise to me...but I don't agree with not taking his name at all.

eagles347

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[QUOTE]Dropping middle name, using maiden name in the middle and picking up new name.
Posted by mandikaykay[/QUOTE]

Same here...he was not hearing anything other than taking his last name. Since I hate my middle name, this is the logical choice. He did agree, however, that if we have a son someday, my last name will be his first. I'm happy with that.

red_980

I plan on taking my last name as another middle name so that I can keep the name, but I will change my last name to FI's