final call for bridemaids!!!

soontobehasrouni

BM #1 talked to #2 the other day. the reason she hasnt been answering her calls and texts is because she was letting that broke down fool live with her, after he got kicked out the other girls house!!! what the hell?! he acted a fool, got drunk and told her to "get her half breed @ss away from him" and told her the things he would do to her sister....just all around disrespectful. but she is still messin with this dude!! to be honest, i dont even want her in the wedding, u got too much going on!!!

She didnt mention anything about dresses to #1, #1 is done listenin to her drama too. Monday is the deadline to order the dresses but BM#1 told #1 we are going on the 11th, #2 never responded to that. I think its safe to say she is definitely out and doesnt want to tell anyone. BM#1 and myself are going tomorrow to order her dress and its a wrap after that! if #2 ever asks im just going to tell her " i told you the date that they had to be ordered and you never responded so i just assumed you didnt want to participate. She keeps on having all this drama with this fool and she wil be lucky if she even gets an invite. i dont do drama! ESPECIALLY drama over some broke down man!

CaseynMike

not to take away from your post but you know you are Knottie of the Week huh?

soontobehasrouni

oh snap, i saw it yesterday and forgot!

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[QUOTE]not to take away from your post but you know you are Knottie of the Week huh?
Posted by CaseynMike[/QUOTE]

tirathemrs

WOW yea thats tooo much drama to be dealing with...y is she with a guy like that and if she didnt respond then yea maybe she dont know how to deal with no being able to be in your wedding considering she has soo much going on in her life right now...

Id tell her God bless you but if its too much for you to handle its ok you can be a guest but let a sista knw for sure if your coming or not becuz id hate to waste my money...sorry your going thru this honey

soontobehasrouni

girl i just dont understand it! im not one to chase people down or even bring it up twice. She knows the obligation she made and im not going to beg for you to be there you know? no love lost, just now i know who i can and cant count on. and im so disgusted by the way she lets him treat her, it might be better if i dont talk to her! i might have to tell her to get her get right and pull it together!

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[QUOTE]WOW yea thats tooo much drama to be dealing with...y is she with a guy like that and if she didnt respond then yea maybe she dont know how to deal with no being able to be in your wedding considering she has soo much going on in her life right now... Id tell her God bless you but if its too much for you to handle its ok you can be a guest but let a sista knw for sure if your coming or not becuz id hate to waste my money...sorry your going thru this honey
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footballwife77

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[QUOTE]<strong>not to take away from your post but you know you are Knottie of the Week</strong> huh?
Posted by CaseynMike[/QUOTE]

LMAO!

and yeah, to be honest, i'm so SO so very confused what's going on with your bm's. One is covering for her awesome(less) bf and can't pay for a dress? Keep it moving. If it's that hard for her to get a dress and get with the program, it's going to be even harder for her to show up to other wedding related stuff.

soontobehasrouni

girl i am SO done. i only have 2 BMs, and only one actually wants to be involved. oh well! save me some money $$$$


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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: final call for bridemaids!!! : LMAO! and yeah, to be honest, i'm so SO so very confused what's going on with your bm's. One is covering for her awesome(less) bf and can't pay for a dress? Keep it moving. If it's that hard for her to get a dress and get with the program, it's going to be even harder for her to show up to other wedding related stuff.
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I was waiting for you to ask a question if there was one.    glad to see there isn't.  carry on.  lol!

tirathemrs

LOL hey SULTRYZULU

[Deleted User]

hey baby girl, how you been?

/endjack

tirathemrs

IM GOOD HONEY...MISS YOU

MrsSmith2Be02

Is there are reason why BM #1 is coordinating all communication regarding dresses with BM #2? Have you flat out asked her if she still plans on being in the wedding? I'm usually one to kick rocks to everybody but I have a soft spot for kinda of just ordering without saying HEY we will be so and so at this time the dress is this amount. Especially if you told her the 11th which isn't tomorrow. Ya know? If it were me, I would actually be the bride and talk to the friend who I asked to be in my wedding. I mean if she means a lot to you that would be the first criteria for asking someone to stand with you (especially if you only have 2 BM) and second be sincere and ask her what is going on in her life. I know as brides we get caught up in the wedding planning but sometimes we can neglect that life does go on outside of ourselves and our friends may really need us to talk to to get ahold of whatever is going on in their lives too. Just a thought. Before going to order dresses tomorrow without telling her, putting aside her communicating back with BM#1 because its not her wedding its yours (unless those expectations were outlined to everyone that communicate about BM stuff - which really isn't much BM stuff to talk about with 2 BM) with BM#1, I would call her and talk to her woman to woman. Let her know how you feel as a friend, how you care for her, being compassionate and just to let you know if she can't particiapte because its ok, you just want her to be ok in the end.  Let me know if I confused you.