Ladies...if you could go back and change ONE thing..

brittanyjterrell

.. about your wedding plans what would it be?

For me, I wish I wouldn't have picked my BP too soon or trying to stick to the 'family only' rule that my Grandmother was going.. luckily for me, I don't care about kicking people out (okay, that sounds bad but it HAD to be done) LOL

Also, making my own invitations... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr! I am pulling my weave out over here, I can't do this! I am not a "crafty" person and I do not know WHAT I was thinking! FI just laughs because we do them together and I get so frustrated sooo easily! LOL

Lastly, I would've had my destination wedding as I originally planned. I was basically pressured to have it back home because no one could afford to travel to Mexico. The pressure of a big "back home" wedding has really been hectic!

mahoganieyes

Destination wedding, please!

shesheduke

I would stick to my guns on every single things. I think I changed a lot of stuff based off what worked best for others and that ended up biting my butt in the end. I was way to easy going cause I didn't want people to think I was a bridezilla but it rreally got me run over in the long run.

msapril0730

Smaller bridal party and sticking to my guns

chescam

Waited closer to wedding to pick bridal party. Inviting only 75 people like I originally wanted and focusing more on what FI and I really wanted. Man, this process should not be so stressfull

BluIvory82

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[QUOTE]Destination wedding, please!
Posted by mahoganieyes[/QUOTE]

YES! I think about this daily!  A private ceremony with the FI, all this mess, no thank you!

MarryingmyKnight

Destination wedding and smaller wedding like FI wanted. Although I think 42 people is not a big wedding. Lol!

bcbsbride

Destination Wedding with just FI and I.

wallacje

More photos with just H and I instead of all these extended family photos, half of them I don't even like like that in the first place.  Definitely wouldn't change anything else. DW kept attended list so much smaller than an at home wedding.

hatroopes

Smaller wedding! I wouldnt have sent out STDs at all, so that way we could have modified the guest list and cut off some people.

prncsz

Smaller bridal party, I would have made my thoughts and ideas about bp hair, makeup, etc known upfront one person didn't get the memo. I would also make sure that I got my own stuff together after the ceremony and prior to the reception. My bridal party went in the room and threw the stuff anywhere it would fit. I am still missing my face powder that I bought that day from mac as well as my makeup brush and my blush that I purchased. Had I taken just one sec to put all of this back in my purse when they came to get me to walk. I would still have all of this stuff with me instead of it being in mississippi and not where I needed it to be the day of the wedding.

I would have also had my father/daughter dance. I didn't want to do it because i was not sure if DH's mom would be up to doing a mother/son dance physically and at the last 30 mins of the reception DH decides to do mother/son dance and I did not follow-up with father/daughter dance because we were running out of rental time. Everyday I regret that because I definitely don't plan to marry again so hopefully we have a vow renewal in about 10 or 15 years and I can recreate that moment with my dad.

Had ceremony at the reception site or at another church completely.

simbidi

Destination wedding with no more than 20 family/friends!!

2010Bride2be

I just wouldn't have been so stressed out. I would have let things flow and not worried about every single detail. With all the stress and tears, I missed out on a lot of the fun of planning a wedding.

If I knew then what I know now, I would have trusted my coordinator and venue completely, which would have alleviated the stress.