Tuesday Tips

TysWife2Be

Hey ladies...

I am a little late with this post but better late than never.

This week I think I will focus on key success factors in a relationship.

What have your done in your relationship that has made it successful and last?

One of the biggest things is communication. There are times where things just have to be talked out. There are also times when you need to learn to leave stuff alone.

Knowing when to talk and when NOT to talk can save a lot of arguments. As much as you may want to talk, if your partner doesnt, forcing them to talk will only make the situation worst.

So ladies...what are some of your keys to a successful relationship/marriage?

derekandtiffani

Friendship is key. You have to honestly do more than love the person - you have to be their friend. It is also important to laugh together. And not sweat the small stuff. I'm guilty of that though. FI is soooooooo laid back and I am high strung. Another thing is to learn to speak with love and not criticism.

Be careful of who you take advice from (silly seeing as how I'm giving it out). It is important to know that everything aint gonna work for everybody.

OFF

Compromise.  Learning that you can't always get your way.  I'm an only child and he is the baby and the only boy, so we are both used to getting what we want when want how we want.  So learning to compromise has been a major part of our relationship.  

I definitely agree with knowing when to pick your battles and when to just bite your tongue and let things drop.  I'm still learning that one  

Ladysun083

honesty and communication is the key... as well as learning when to let things go..im still working on that part

berrytr

Active listening and quality time.

MIABRIDENTAMPA

Trust- I think this is one of our biggest fails in a relationship. Once we both learn to trust the others judgement or opinion, it gave our relationship more depth. I think it goes deeper than just trusting he/she want cheat. I think you have to be able to trust that this man will make sound decisions with you regarding the household and the future of your family. Sometimes, I think we tend to second guess our spouses opinion. I know I use to never trust a man based on what he said, then fi came along and everything he says he is going to do, he does, I can respect and appreciate a man of his word. I know he trust me in that I will always come to him first with any issues, as oppose to my girlfriends or family(which can cause major problems)... So I think learning to trust in each other has strengthened our relationship significantly.

desi2002

pick and choose your battles. also i learned to let him take credit and give him praise for certain things even though it was my idea.

tamtam7

Uhhh, relationship advice, huh?!  Well, I'm still in my learning curve so I am taking notes on all of the things you ladies mentioned.  I guess my Tuesday Tip kind of piggybacks on the communication advice offered earlier and to add to that I would say be an active listener.  I find that sometimes I am great at communicating my concerns but not always good at listening to his concerns.  And part of the reason why is because I'm trying to think of my next response rather than taking in what he is actually saying (I do that with everyone, friends, co-workers, family members, I really need to work on this LOL).  You can't have good communication if you're not listening and acknowledging what your partner is saying and feeling. 

1TriniDiva

I also feel communication is key. But I also would add don't let other people interfere in your relationship. Keep what happens in your house, and your relationship between the two of you.

DSTbride15

The biggest tip for me- Communication!! I used to get pissed and not talk for several days. My FI was like, enough of this!! We are wasting precious time over some BS..Be woman enough to articulate your thoughts in a loving way, let's deal with the issue and move on. All this walking around with the silent treatment is so high school. Once I picked my ego & face up off the floor, I realized he was right, so now I tell him EVERYTHING that bothers me, LOL!!

I also suggest reading Gary Chapman's 5 Languages of Love. That was recommended to us by our pastor during counseling and it has helped alot as well!!

Deb

Mypasmita

Communicate and compromise

christinapayne

Do not let selfishness get in the way. It is so easy to want someone to cater to your needs, or give much more than you get. But my FI taught me how to put him first, without losing my identity, and he reciprocates. We are always finding ways to make each other happy, even if it is inconvenvient for ourselves. It is the best kind of love, to know that the other person is thinking of you first, and that you are willing to do the same.

sdstephens2010

1. Marriage counseling laid a great foundation for us.
2. Communication is definitely the key.
3. Choose your battles. Sometimes it is better to say nothing at all, to have a peaceful day.
4. Let him be a man! Trust his decisions and allow him to take the fall and support him with that decision backfires on him.
5. Have fun and be spontaneous!
6. Plan cheap weekend get-a-ways (i.e. 1 night away in a vey nice hotel with dinner)

MissesKB

Respect for one another and knowing your role.

YasJas2011

Commuication and Respect are the most important things in our relationship.