Rehearsal dinner invite question?

mrsnana

So the post below made me think about rd invites. Are you putting the rd invite inside the wedding invites? or are you doing seperate invites? If so, are you mailing the rd invites out as well to oot guests and local guests? I am not sure how to let them all know the details. Also, We have a lot of OOT guests, we are not paying for them, but are giving them the option to go, but didn't know how to let them know.  Is it "rude" to say something to the effect of, you are invited to the rd dinner for so and so and the cost is $10-$15 per person, or etc....?

What is a good wording for this or is this just tacky?

Thanks

cincy2011

I mailed out a separate invitation to the RD - used the standard postcards on Vistaprint, so they were free.  I created a separate page on our wedding web site that had a password so the attendees could RSVP for the RD there.  I only invited our parents and the wedding party (including hostesses, ushers, officiant). 

As far as the wording about paying for their own meals, I'm not sure of how to say that without it sounding strange.  I might just send invites to those you are paying for, and spread the info through word of mouth that all OOT guests can attend if they wish, but will have to pay for their food.

kiyamurph

I'm not going to have separate invites for the rehearsal dinner because it's just going to be word of mouth.  As for your OOT guests, honestly, and this is just my personal opinion, if you're not going to pay for them then I wouldn't invite them.  I think that the RD should be for people who are involved in the wedding (and their significant others) and immediate family.  I just don't believe in inviting people to a rehearsal dinner and not paying for them.  If I were to be invited to someone's RD and I'm not part of the wedding party and they had me pay then I wouldn't even go.  Just my honest opinion.

mrsnana

Thanks Ladies!

I do want it only for the WP and immediate family, but we do have those family members that just don't understand weddings and will feel left out. So to prevent this, I am giving them the option to come because we know our families, but it isn't something we'd pay for for them.

msapril0730

We are also giving all the OOT guest the option to come to the rehearsal dinner. It's my FI's family who are the OOT guest and he spread it word of mouth that they were invited but they had to pay for their food.

lil01

I'm not sending invites. Our wedding party are already aware of the rehearsal dinner, but the restaurant & time will be communicated word of mouth, through text, email, or phone. I can't see myself spending $$ on RD invites after everything else.

If you do send invites to those you're paying for only, guests you're not paying for can get the info word of mouth & just be straight up about it being optional and that they are responsible for their meal. They can come or not come....their choice.

mrsnana

Thanks Ladies, I think I'll do word of mouth for them instead of doing an invite!