BM Dropped Out!

wallacje

Well I'm down to 4 BM's in the wedding.

She told me today that she couldn't afford to go, which I totally understand.  It would explain why she's been avoiding me though.  Is this going to affect our friendship now??

My issue is why didn't she tell me earlier, this isn't something she figured on this week, she knew for awhile.  Now I can't even find a replacement because the dress won't get here in time for the alterations.  SO ANNOYED right now.  The line is going to be uneven too.

FI offered to kick one of his guys out but he won't let me pick which one, so we might as well keep them all.  He chose one of his cousins that I can't stand, he would be the first to go!

On a lighter note, I have space for 2 more people now. LOL

wheatney22

Oh sorry to hear that. How many people in your bridal party? Perhaps you can have 2 bridesmaids walk with 2 guys.

My bridal party is uneven but that was intentional because FI's best friend who would have been his best man passed away a couple of years ago and we wanted to leave the spot empty in memory of him.

I don't think it must be even on both sides. But that's just me.

vfriday

the fact that your bridesmaid told you 3 months in advance is better than waiting any longer than she did.  If you can get past her not being there for you, I think your relationship will be fine.  Our groomesmen have all backed out due to $$.  My brother will stand up for my FI after he walks me down the aisle.  I haven't worked out the processional out yet, but I am sure that it will all work out.

wallacje

Thanks ladies.  I wasn't sure how the uneven thing would work. But since it will only be for when the ceremony is over, I guess it won't look that bad.

I think I can get over it, if she's not there it won't be the end of the world.  Now that you mention I should be happy that she said anything at all.

tyboyd

I wish my MOH would drop out right about now.... But sorry you're going through this. Friends sure can SUCK at times!

lil01

I can see why you'd be upset with her dropping out w/ 3 months left, but like pp said...better to tell you now than later. It depends on you guys & the situation whether or not the friendship will be ruined. I know the feeling cause it happened to me. My friendship is strained with my dropout now, but thats cause I've had issues w/ her before.

As far as the uneven sides, I agree that having 1 BM walked down the aisle with 2 GM.

cherryblossom5

I can understand why your annoyed, like you said she didn;t just realize that she was having issues with her money.
atleast she could have done was let you know so you could find a replacement. that sucks totally!!

sweetjess2011

It maybe hard but dont let people around you stress you out. An uneven wedding party is just fine, as long as you and FH are there thats what matters. Stay postive and keep it moving!!

sweets18

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[QUOTE]I wish my MOH would drop out right about now.... But sorry you're going through this. Friends sure can SUCK at times!
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Too funny Ty!
Girl! Good riddance! I think it is great that she told you now and there is nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party especially if its just off by one person. That is one less headache to have to deal with!

wallacje

@Ty - I felt that way about one of the other BM"S too, but she's not going anywhere. Darn.

I'm not going to stress about it anymore, the day will go on and she will miss out. 

Thanks ladies, I feel a heck of a lot better now about the uneven sides and the situation in general.

krimson19

glad you're feeling better.  maybe she thought she could come up with the money.  maybe it was embarrassing for her to tell you.  just thank her for not waiting until right up to the wedding.  the uneven sides aren't a big deal.  good luck!