Does it really matter??!?!?!, dress related!

codom

so FMIL is making a big stink because my dress is white! She insist that since I have kids and FI has kids I should be wearing off white or ivory. I don't think it matters as it's my first wedding I can wear white if I want too.......does it really matter??

hotrocker2011

IMO, it don't! you can were what ever color you like. It is your day after all and not hers....

kbval0512

I agree with hotrocker2011 it's your wedding so you can wear whatever color you want to wear.... I felt the same way at first and so many people had their opinions because I have a kid which means I'm obviously not pure anymore. But I'm like so what it's my wedding. My Fiance and I are starting our lives together as one neither one of us have been married so this is new and fresh..... So I will be wearing white!!!!! Therefore any of my guest that will have something to say on that day should just keep their mouths closed

Ky925

I don't think it matters at all.  FI and I have 2 children together, I chose an Ivory gown but only because I like how the ivory looks with my skin tone and light brown hair and plus our rings are gold so I think it all just looks better.  But BES believe if I fell in love with a bright white gown I sure nuf would wear and anyone that had a problem with could keep it to theirselves.  Do what makes YOU happy!!

Ksk2012

UGGG the rules... pick the dress you like and wear it.. even if it is blue!

simbidi

That's such am old school mentality.  Both FI and I have been married before and we have 5 kids between us.  I am wearing white because I want to.... nuff said!

ThunderKitten2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_really-matter-dress-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c486470c-560e-407f-89c1-86d03b4a5eaaPost:c9efab98-9bb6-4a05-8843-ce7e38ce576b">Re: Does it really matter??!?!?!, dress related!</a>:
[QUOTE]That's such am old school mentality.  Both FI and I have been married before and we have 5 kids between us.  I am wearing white because I want to.... nuff said!
Posted by simbidi[/QUOTE]
THIS!!!!!!! I have been married before and I have 2 sons and I am STILL going to wear my white gown, and whoever doesn't like not only can keep their mouth shut, they don't even need to show up! GAH LEEEE!!! All these rules that "they" make up. Someone has yet to tell me who "they" are! LOLOL

Soon2BSand

Tell her to read her Bible. You're SUPPOSED to wear white. The symbolism represents you being washed and made pure for your bridegroom just as Jesus dying makes us pure and cleansed from sin to be married. (Christ the bridegroom the church the bride) People kill me.

kiwona

I'm wearing a white dress and FI is wearing a white tux....no one better say not a word our 3 children are in our wedding....so what....it is your day your dress what you want to wear!

island07b2b

Say what?  Who told her that?  Pul-leeze.  Of course it doesn't matter.  You wear whatever color you want to wear.  End of story.

flasweetheart

I agree with all the pp I've never been married or have kids and I'm wearing an ivory dress because I fell in love with how it looked with my skin tone. You can wear whatever you fall in love with.

kiyamurph

Oh please.  Tell her to go kick rocks.  The whole white dress = purity thing didn't even start until Queen Victoria wore a white dress on her wedding day.  Before then, women didn't wear white because it was seen as impractical to wear a white dress that was just going to get dirty for one day.  So the dresses that they wore back then weren't even white.  Queen Victoria was considered to be a virgin queen and when she wore a white dress it became a symbol of purity and was made fashionable.

So I say all that to say to wear whatever you want.  It's your day and who gives a rip what someone thinks!

codom

Thank unpacked for weighing in!! I thought for a minute I may have flipped a birdie to wedding "etiquette " FI brought twins into our relationship and I brought 1 daughter together we have a 4y/o daughter and 6 yrs later we are still going strong... To me this I figure since it's the first marriage for both of us it shouldn't matter what color we wear....I'm just sick of hearing "oh girl u know u shouldn't be wearing white" smh old ppl KILL me

ThunderKitten2011

Ask 'em how much their giving you towards a "not white" dress, bet that'll shut 'em up!

PB-Bride2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_really-matter-dress-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c486470c-560e-407f-89c1-86d03b4a5eaaPost:0e551e81-8791-499f-b43e-c51c552f3d7d">Re: Does it really matter??!?!?!, dress related!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ask 'em how much their giving you towards a "not white" dress, bet that'll shut 'em up!
Posted by ThunderKitten2011[/QUOTE]

THIS....PEOPLE JUST DON'T CARE WHAT COMES OUT THEIR MOUTH!!

lil01

Agree with pp. Wear whatever color you want. No explanations needed.

busybruck

Wear whatever you want to wear. It's your day, wear what makes you happy. Don't say anything to her, she doesn't deserve a response.

Gnice

 I say wear what you want to wear. It is your day. like Busybruck said she does not even deserve a response.

pinkcottoncandy7

Yeh it doesn't matter because if that were true I should be wearing white and I am wearing Ivory. I think thats really outdated and a little agressive, lol!