Honeymoon Registry

A&M_Abyss

Good Morning Ladies,

Just wanted to know if anyone was doing a honeymoon registry. We're doing one in addition to our other registries and i'm creating a profile on honeymoonwishes.com has anyone used another site?

prncsz

I set one up on honeymoon wishes but I'm not sure if I'm going to keep it. We are also registered at Kohls, Macy's, Target, and Dillards. I didn't think anything was wrong with it until I started reading some of the other boards on TK and many think it's a negative thing. I will see if it gets any activity once we begin to share our wedding website with our guests if it doesn't i'll remove it from the site.

A&M_Abyss

imho i think a honeymoon registry is perfectly fine. it's a really great way for guests to provide you with an experience vs. a blender (get what i'm saying)

for my fi and i this will be our 1st international trip together so it's kind of a big deal (not that no one else's trip isn't a biggie) and if we can offset some of the costs then it's a blessing.

i'm thinking of cutting out 1 of my registries (williams and sonoma) and just having macys, crate and barrel and the honeymoon registry.

i feel like at the end of it all...those memories are going to be priceless. i haven't released my wedding site either, fi needs to get it together and do his write up of the groomsmen bc that's a task i will not be handling lol

prncsz

I completely understand where you are coming from I started our website two or three weeks after we got engaged FI never finished inputing his verbage, groomsmen info, etc until May. We got engaged in February, then he told me he felt like crap because I had been asking him for weeks to do it and it took him maybe 30 minutes to finish it.

eagles347

I don't have one. I'm one of those people who give it the side-eye, but I have a few friends who used them and I didn't judge or anything...I just gave them money in a card. My biggest issue with honeymoon sites are that some of them charge a fee so the couple either doesn't get the full amount contributed or the person giving the gift has to give extra...I'm pretty sure the former is most common.

I think I prefer the word-of-mouth method of letting your guests know that you'd prefer cash. Essentially, the website is just communicating that you want money for the honeymoon so it would serve the same purpose.

I'm interested in the feedback here...I may definitely be in the minority with my opinion. I often am these days...lol...on everything, not just wedding-related stuff.

prncsz

@eagles- it was new to me I actually learned about it here on TK and then after I established the registry and visited some of the other boards found out the negative views on it. Honeymoon Wishes is one of those that charges a fee to either the couple or the guests. So I don't know? I'll probably just think about it some more. Most of the comments on the other boards just mention if cash is what you want just don't complete a registry and people will automatically either get you what they want to get you or they will give cash.

eagles347

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_honeymoon-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c60be12b-d543-42c1-9748-611ffdf8806dPost:1b8ac052-105d-483e-a0d7-2b3359051dbd">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]@eagles- it was new to me I actually learned about it here on TK and then after I established the registry and visited some of the other boards found out the negative views on it. Honeymoon Wishes is one of those that charges a fee to either the couple or the guests. So I don't know? I'll probably just think about it some more. Most of the comments on the other boards just mention if cash is what you won't just don't complete a registry and people will automatically either get you what they want to get you or they will give cash.
Posted by prncsz[/QUOTE]

Yeah...I have heard that not doing a registry gets the point across, but I am not sure it would in our circle...amongst the older guests anyway. I wasn't going to register since we are combining two homes, but there are definitely things lacking in both kitchens and we both have a few things that we'd like to swap out so it worked. Ultimately, just go with what you really want and are comfortable with. Your guests love you or they wouldn't be your guests so in the end, I'm sure whatever you decide will be fine.

KSTURGIS

We did one through liberty travel. So we did a few house hold items at bb&b and the honeymoon registry.

TNMurray

Yeah I put this post in the Registry board and almost got attacked. I would rather get the extra cash instead of dealing with the fees. I think there are actual sites where you can buy excursions and they actually give you vouchers for the excursion not cash. This I would be ok with.

luckyinloveaz

FI and I were excited about the honeymoon registry since his aunt was showing us an example. Once we got home and started filling out the info ourselves, we came across the fee for giving the cash gift. We both didnt hesitate and decided against it.

desi2002

We JUST set up ours the other day through Sandals. For us and our family it is perfect. I think that it is something that varies from couple to couple.

mahoganieyes

I agree with Desi, it varies with your guests. For my guests NO! I plan on doing just 2 registries with a few items.

amberlynned

IMO, a honeymoon registry isn't a bad thing at all. They can be really cute & if done well, classy. My only problem comes when people register for too much. I think that if I wanted to go ahead with the HM registry, then I'd only register for one other store. I know it my be just me, but when people register for too many stores it looks greedy. No offense to anyone that may have done it  this way!

spgbla

[QUOTE]I don't have one. I'm one of those people who give it the side-eye, but I have a few friends who used them and I didn't judge or anything...I just gave them money in a card. My biggest issue with honeymoon sites are that some of them charge a fee so the couple either doesn't get the full amount contributed or the person giving the gift has to give extra...I'm pretty sure the former is most common.

I think I prefer the word-of-mouth method of letting your guests know that you'd prefer cash. Essentially, the website is just communicating that you want money for the honeymoon so it would serve the same purpose.

I'm interested in the feedback here...I may definitely be in the minority with my opinion. I often am these days...lol...on everything, not just wedding-related stuff. ;)[QUOTE]
 
I agree with Eagles347 word for word.

desi2002

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_honeymoon-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c60be12b-d543-42c1-9748-611ffdf8806dPost:71cc4b6e-e139-4c74-9159-ded5ea59804f">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>IMO, a honeymoon registry isn't a bad thing at all. They can be really cute & if done well, classy. My only problem comes when people register for too much. I think that if I wanted to go ahead with the HM registry, then I'd only register for one other store. I know it my be just me, but when people register for too many stores it looks greedy. No offense to anyone that may have done it  this way!
Posted by amberlynned[/QUOTE</strong>]
I agree. The HM registry is my ONLY registry. I actually dont need "help" with the HM nor do I need gifts. But since I know pple will ask what to get us... they can just help with the HM.

cuddleberry

I have a honeymoon registry, but it isnt being used to pay for the honeymoon just for activities that we would like to do while there. I don't think anything is wrong with HM registries though. Especially if you are already in a home and don't need anything. I've read the negative thoughts of HM registries and I say to each their own! 

banks69

I don't have anything against a HM registry, but for our guests we will be fortunate if we receive 1/4 of the gifts we have on our current registry - which isn't much because we are both established.  FI's brother and wife told us that the only people who bought of their registry was myself and a relative in Georgia and we are inviting most of the same people to our wedding! I'm looking forward to returning a lot of gifts that we don't need or want!

I would love to ask for cash, but I have "issues" with telling people to give us money. FMIL thinks we should since that's what we really need!  Haven't figured out how I can do this tastefully though.