Here we go...its always that one!

MrsBad13

So for the last week Ive been blowing my BMs up with emails and txts of reminders that today is time for them to get there dresses. They all had agreed today would be the best day for them to go. All responded to reminders saying they will be there.

I sent final reminder last night. My one problem child txts me this morning..Oo no is that today...I may not be able to make it..i have something else I might have to do. Are u kidding me ?! You agreed you could do it this day and you even responded to my reminders
.why u playing dumb like you forgot ?

I call her my problem child because when its time for her to be there she is not on time. I had a bridal gathering awhile ago to give info about upcoming events and such because she was late I had to go ahead and proceed w/out her and then repeat everything to her once she came and to make it bad I stalled on the time waiting for her and she was still late.

Yall pray for the BMs not for me..im not gon worry about it !

[Deleted User]

and to make it bad I stalled on the time waiting for her and she was still late

does stalled mean you lied about the actual time and padded to accommodate her?  because if so, that was gonna be my one suggestion and not by a 1/2 hour, chronically late = real appointment time is 7, tell problem child it's 6.

just out of curiosity, does get their dresses mean ya'll are auditioning them or you picked em out already and the girls are picking em up today?  

MrsBad13

They are going to pick, try on and put deps down. They have until 12/15 to pick and put deps down. Im not going to worry about too much right now, they have 2 months. She is the friend who will go MIA on you for days and weeks at a time, so Ima little nervous about her but as the same time I said Im not gon let them stress me !

MrsSmith2Be02

Do you have a selection of dresses that you want them to choose from? My suggestion would be that have the bustiest, the hippiest, and the heaviest try on the dresses. If she doesn't fit one of those categories, then don't worry about her and she will be alright with what is chosen. I say those because they are usually the ones that have problems with the way dresses fit. Small girls don't have an issue....it will all work.

MrsBad13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_here-we-goits-always-that-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:ca0e4b17-b490-4265-bec3-7b91ba055ecaPost:fa489f74-6d07-422a-baf3-7aeb24fe1c64">Re: Here we go...its always that one!</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you have a selection of dresses that you want them to choose from? My suggestion would be that have the bustiest, the hippiest, and the heaviest try on the dresses. If she doesn't fit one of those categories, then don't worry about her and she will be alright with what is chosen. I say those because they are usually the ones that have problems with the way dresses fit. Small girls don't have an issue....it will all work.
Posted by MrsSmith2Be02[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>No, I am letting them pic what they want as long as its in the color and length and I chose. Girl...its has nothing to do with their size.She is just being a problem child and I dont know why. When I talk to her I dont talk WR things until its that time which is now. Usually our convos is about everyday life. I always ask wasup with her, whats going on in her life. I really dont talk to any of my friends about the wedding unless they ask me. My thing I just reminded you last night and you txt me this morning saying Oo..is that today..I might not make it when you responded and said ok..see ya there last night ! like wth ! </div>

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now see you really shouldn't have to go through all that.  but we've all had at least one of those girlfriends that listens outta 1/2 of one ear - when you're finished talking to her, the part that she needs to pay attention to? ask her to repeat it. 

ainge:  P.C. Imma see you at ShiShiPooPoos tomorrow at 6, ok?
P.C.:  ok
ainge:  girl, what'd I just say?
P.C.:  um, I don't know, what'd you say?
ainge:  tomorrow, shishis, 6!
P.C.:   got it.  tomorrow, shishis, 6.

{stagesigh} I wish it could be easier. 

MrsBad13

lol...girl...yea right ! 

nursing2u

I completely know the feeling... This is what I have been going through the past 3 months with them.. I figured if I bring up dresses ever so often it will get into their heads and then when it's finally time.. they will at least have a memory of something I said..lol..

My MOH and my one BM (they dont exactly like each other).. one lives in Texas now and the other right near me.. The one near me is the BM because I have known the MOH longer and were closer.. the BM said she didnt mind being the BM because she knows that me and the MOH have known each other the longest...

Well now.... what I am getting is (I dont want to dress like her.. if she is wearing the black dress I am wearing the pink dress)... and ohh no not wearing the same shoes.. I am like.. whatever.. you guys are making me laugh and I am NOT letting that get to me.. They both have their moments of being there and then disappearing.. So I am taking them with a grain of salt.. and I will continue to do the bulk of everything on my own.. (which I am alright with...well now i am).. As long as they order their dresses when I ask.. I am alright.. They both shocked me and the same EXACT DAY they were both trying on the dress I had picked out..(one in maryland and the other in texas)... So I cant be upset..

I have gone through my own lil rant... sorry.. just to say... Dont let the problem child get to you.. take her for who you know she is.. "and how she is going to act".. and relax relate release.. no stress!!!