Help!

tyboyd

I just thought about this last night. My program goes:

- Prelude
- Entrance of Parents
- Processional
- Entrance of Bride
- Lighting of Memorial Candle
- Prayer

Then the rest of the program....

My lil bro is walking me down the aisle. When we get to the front, do I stop and the minister says something before Babe and I proceed to light the memorial candle or what? I'm so confused. All suggestions welcomed.

flasweetheart

Is the minister asking who gives this woman to marry this man? If he is then you can have him say it there and then go light the candle and then go into the prayer. If he isn't then once you reach the front your brother hands you off go light the candle and keep right on going.

tyboyd

Ok, that's what I thought. I don't think I want him to ask that... I'm already married. So, my mom already gave me away.

So, when we get to the front, we'll wait for the song to end. Then the minister says what we're doing and we go light the candle, come back and pray? Right?

flasweetheart

Yeah are you going to have him ready something while you are lighting the candle or will you have music playing? Cause you can have him start talking while you and hubby go and light it so there is the talking going on while your doing it.

tcjames

Hey Ty...I see your doing a little last minute stressing....I'm sending over a glass of wine or juice which ever you prefer, just a little relaxing technique I've recently taking up lol .. 1st are you lighting a memorial or unity candle at ceremony? 2nd are you & FI just lighting or will siblings, moms, etc participate as well. I'm not sure about the memorial candle lighting, but IMO I would do that after a prayer and mention of those being memorialized, if its just you 2 or for others who participate have them light before being seated, then B & G light after prayer,  then proceed with rest of program.

Hope that helps you...Good Luck

tyboyd

@flasweetheart: I just told him to mention what we're doing. I'll prolly just have soft music play. In the program, it lists the names of the people and the poem on the candle.

@tcjames: Pass me some apple juice! lol. It's just us lighting it on behalf of our deceased loved ones. No others will be lighting it because it's only 1 candle.