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flasweetheart

How did  you and FI meet?

What made you know that FI one the one?

How did FI propose?

chayb87

How did  you and FI meet? 

I was visiting my family in GA for Christmas and I was hanging out with one of my cousins.  We were bored, so we went to go visit her best friend who is also FI's cousin, and she was at his house.  We went over to FI's house so my cousin could see her best friend and FI was there with his friends.  He says I kept staring at him, but I don't remember things happening that way lol.  We stayed for a while and then we were going to leave and FI came up to me before we got in the car and we talked for a little bit and he invited me over for Christmas dinner.  I heard his mom could cook so me liking to eat accepted and I had planned on going, but my mom decided she wanted to go back home early so we ended up leaving on Christmas day and I didn't see him after that first time.  My cousin called me while we were on the road and she said he wanted my number.  I didn't think anything of it and I told her she could give him my number.  He called later and the rest is history.

What made you know that FI one the one? 

I knew he was the one for a variety of reasons, from the beginning we just clicked and I felt so comfortable with him.  He is very family oriented and he is also funny and goofy, he always has me laughing and I love that about him.  I could list so many things, but I just knew he was the one and I couldn't picture my life without him in it.  

How did FI propose?

I copied and pasted from our website and put FI in place of his name:

FI had returned from his deployment we went to a movie and then went out to eat.  We had been talking about getting married and he had said he had been looking at rings, but I didn't know when he would actually propose.  Well this night when we got to the restaurant he was acting kind of weird and he got up about 2 times as we waited for a table.  I thought he was acting strange and I kind of suspected something, but I didn't say anything.  We eventually got a table and we were ordering drinks.  I got what I wanted and FI got what he wanted, but the waitress didn't leave.  She looked at FI and asked "Are you sure you don't want anything else?"  Then he said "Oh," and ordered some wine for us to "celebrate" him being back from his deployment.  The waitress came back with our drinks and I had ordered some fruity drink that I was excited to drink so I wasn't really paying attention to the wine when she set it down.  After she set our drinks down she didn't leave and FI said we should have a toast.  I was confused because the waitress was still standing there, but I picked my glass up anyway and FI told me to look down.  I looked down and there was a ring in it!  Then he asked me to marry him and of course I said yes.

luckyinloveaz

What do you and your FI like to do in your spare time?

chayb87

What do you and your FI like to do in your spare time?

In our spare time we like to go out to dinner and to the movies, or we hang out with our friends and play spades all night.  Lately, FI has been wanting to play scrabble a lot, so I've kicked his butt in that a few times.  We only see each other on the weekends right now, so we usually try to have a date night or something when we are together.

tcwalk2403

Hi! I'm new to this board and see that your FI is in the military? Have you done anything special to prepare for becoming a military wife? (My FI is heading to basic training in about 2 weeks, and I'm preparing the best I can, but still very nervous!!)

chayb87

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[QUOTE]Hi! I'm new to this board and see that your FI is in the military? Have you done anything special to prepare for becoming a military wife? (My FI is heading to basic training in about 2 weeks, and I'm preparing the best I can, but still very nervous!!)
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</div><div>First, welcome to the board!!  My FI is in the Air Force and for the longest time, him being in the military didn't really affect me because we were in a long distance relationship.  He was deployed at one time, which was hard because I wasn't able to talk to him as much as I wanted to, but not being able to see him was something I had just gotten used to.  And being in the Air Force, his deployments are usually only 4 months long, I don't know what branch your FI is going into, but other branches of the military usually have longer deployments, sometimes up to a year long.  Now, we are still long distance, but closer, but only see each other on the weekends because I am in school about an hour away from him.  I will be moving with him after the wedding.  As far as preparing for being a military wife, I would say for you to just be prepared for anything.  Sometimes FI gets off at the time he is supposed to, sometimes he gets off early, sometimes he gets off really late, sometimes he works weekends, and sometimes, like right now, he is on temporary duty and he has been gone for 2 weeks.  He also may have to get deployed, so that is something to be prepared for.  If you're in school or working, or anything, just have something to keep your mind busy, it helps the time go by faster.    Umm...that's all I can think of right now, if you have any specific questions you can ask me and there is another military wife on this board, NeCole Monet, she is also in the military herself, I believe.  And there is a military brides board on the knot that can help you with advice also.</div><div>
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tcwalk2403

Thanks for responding. My FI is going to the army, so I know if and when that time comes, he'd be deployed longer. I've done a lot of research and his brother is also in the army, so I've gotten a lot of info already--but of course I know, many aspects are totally unpredictable and out of your control. My main concern right now is planning the wedding while he's away at basic training and whatnot, because for six months, we may not talk often let alone see each other. A lot may have to be done while he's away, and I just want him to feel apart of everything. ANYWHO, I saw the military brides forum and will head over there too at some point.

Thanks again

chayb87

Yea, planning a wedding while he is in basic training can be hard, especially since you won't be able to talk to him that often.  Maybe get his ideas on things before he leaves so you will know what he prefers and kind of include him in the planning even though he won't be around for a while.  

Actually, I've never really posted on the military brides forum and apparently they aren't always the nicest, so if you have questions you can always create topics here and there are a few of us military brides here and we can try to answer your questions.